Life After Loss – Understanding the Grieving Process and Learning to Heal

Life After Loss – Understanding the Grieving Process and Learning to Heal

Two weekends ago, when my step-daughter visited me, we were talking about our grieving process and we both couldn’t help but cry for a while. We were so tried and both mentioned we have started to feel depressed.

Life after loss Understanding the Grieving Process and Learning to Heal

This grieving process is a roller coaster, full of ups and downs, highs and lows. I thought since it has been 3 months that I should be doing better. But the fact is, this process is not a straight line. It is more like one step forward and then two steps backwards. I think the first 3 months I was in shock. Now the reality finally has set in and I started to accept my man is really gone, forever.

Life after loss Understanding the Grieving Process and Learning to Heal

One day, I started to cry right after I stepped into my kitchen from the garage. I cried for a long time, used a whole box of tissue and talked to my husband’s ashes for more than an hour. I finally figured out why I was crying. I am doing way too much and I am just sooooo tired. I get up at 5:30 am everyday and then get home at about 5 or 6 pm from my teaching job. Then I spend every minute I can building my blogging career. My weekends are always over booked for photo shoots or fashion events. I also need to cook, clean, and do some yard work…I was already very tired when I had my husband to share the work. Now it is just me and I am trying to keep up the same standards. Maybe sometimes even higher standards. I know, I am too crazy and too hard on myself.

Life after loss Understanding the Grieving Process and Learning to Heal

I noticed I’m constantly forgetting things and get distracted very easily. My energy level is quite low. I know I need to do something to save myself. The first thing I did is to educate myself by reading many articles online about the grieving process. Here are some things I have learned that have helped me get moving on the right track:

Life after loss Understanding the Grieving Process and Learning to Heal

1. Healing happens gradually; it can’t be forced or hurried

It is easy to bury the pain or ignore it. But trying to ignore the pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long run. For real healing, it is necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it. Talking about your feelings is part of the process of healing. I am lucky to have my family and friends to talk to. I also have my blog as my outlet for this purpose.

2. There is no need to fight everything and try to be brave.

Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. You don’t need to “protect” your family or yourself by putting on a brave front. Showing your true feelings can help them heal too. My family are not big fans of talking, I know I have to be the one starting the conversations and checking on everyone.

3. Give yourself time and space to grieve.

The grieving work takes a lot of out of the body and the mind. Cut down from your normal schedule and find some time to relax. I am trying very hard to balance my full time job, my blogging, and my grieving. I still can’t find as much time as I hoped to relax but I have learned to move some work into a later date. The world will not end if I don’t do something I planned to do. 😉

Life after loss Understanding the Grieving Process and Learning to Heal

Life after loss Understanding the Grieving Process and Learning to Heal

Photos credited: Ashley Buck.

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Happy Eyes, Happy Wallet – Reading Glasses from Readers.com

Happy Eyes, Happy Wallet – Reading Glasses from Readers.com

It was right after I turned 40 years old… I started to notice some changes in my body. One of them was my eyesight. I started getting blurred vision when doing minor activities and I was squinting a lot. My crow’s feet were more and more obvious around my eyes. I even got headaches more often. Later, my eye doctor confirmed that I had presbyopia. Really!?! I was quite upset because I didn’t feel like I was that old. My doctor told me that the average person to get presbyopia is 36 years old. This made me feel a little better at least. Maybe mine is not too bad after all. 😉

Eyes Happy Wallet Reading glasses from Readers.com

I guess it doesn’t matter how much time and money we spend on our face and body, the aging of our eyesight is not that easy to prevent or to fight. The best way to look at it is I now get to wear a pair of stylish reading glasses to avoid more crow’s feet and headaches in the future.

Eyes Happy Wallet Reading glasses from Readers.com

I came across Readers.com and loved what I read from other customers. You should probably know, I always read reviews first and then decide if a website or store is worth my time to shop there. 😉 Anyway, they have many, many styles and types of reading glasses. They offer “Free Shipping on U.S. Orders $30+” and “No-Hassle Returns for a full refund up to 90 days.” This sounded pretty good to me, so I got two pair of reading glasses from them.

Eyes Happy Wallet Reading glasses from Readers.com

The first one is The Laura. I love the perfect mix of retro and edge! I just can’t say no to red or the iconic cat eye shape. 😉 So stylish, right? They are only $15.95. Later I noticed their slogan and it is “Happy eyes Happy wallet”. It is quite true.

Eyes Happy Wallet Reading glasses from Readers.com

Eyes Happy Wallet Reading glasses from Readers.com

Eyes Happy Wallet Reading glasses from Readers.com

Eyes Happy Wallet Reading glasses from Readers.com

The second pair I got is this cool and fancy looking The Marigold Bifocal Sun Reader. I have been going to a beach for vacation each spring. I noticed when I’m there I always wish I have a pair of sunglasses that can help me read. I also have a pool in my backyard, so I do spend quite a bit time on my chaise lounge working on my computer. Now with this pair of sunreaders, I can be very stylish and practical at the same time. 🙂 This pair is only $22.95.

Eyes Happy Wallet Reading glasses from Readers.com

Eyes Happy Wallet Reading glasses from Readers.com

Eyes Happy Wallet Reading glasses from Readers.com

This website is pretty easy to use and the customer service is very good too. I didn’t know my prescription so I just scanned my latest eye exam and e-mailed it to them. They helped me pick the right lens. 😉 When I was looking through Readers.com, I noticed they have some very unique offers. For example, you can order very flexible reading glasses if you are rough on your glasses. 😉 Or Folding Reading Glasses for convenience. I was so excited to see that they even offer high power Makeup Reading Glasses. Makeup readers? You better believe it. These nifty readers are specifically designed to help apply makeup. Work on one eye, then simply slide the magnification over to the other eye when you’re ready to move on. Very interesting! I may have to check them out when my eyesight needs more help. 😉

Eyes Happy Wallet Reading glasses from Readers.com

Photos credited: Grace Liang/Latasha James.

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Grace

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