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A Special Mother’s Day || I Got My Mom Back

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A Special Mother's Day  || I Got My Mom Back

Right after my late husband passed away, I went to see a grief psychologist. I knew I needed help. After a few sessions, my psychologist was quite happy with my grieving progress, but he noticed my damaged childhood. He asked more questions and I just totally lost it. I had cried so hard that I almost choked myself when I was trying to tell him all my memories of my unloving mom.

A Special Mother's Day  || I Got My Mom Back

I have lived in America for 11 years; my mom has never called me or visited me. She doesn’t remember my birthday or any other special dates. I was always the trouble kid in her eyes as far back as I can remember. It is simply because I am a girl. No matter how hard I tried to be the best student at my school, she would take the praise I got from teachers and turn them around and tell everyone that I was a lazy, ugly, and unlikable person. She certainly knew how to be a mom and how to love her kid since she had given everything she could to my older brother, just not to me.

A Special Mother's Day  || I Got My Mom Back

Just like any unloved daughter, at some point in our adult lives, we have to make a choice to salvage some kind of relationship from the wreckage or to simply give up and move on. Neither choice is a spur-of-the-moment decision, but it is usually preceded by years of going back and forth between the alternatives. About 8 months after my man was gone there was one night I was just an emotional wreck. I was so angry because I needed a mom to just be there for me, even just once during the hardest time of my life, but she still hadn’t called me at all. I called her, but she was not home and my brother answered. I told him “If she will not apologize to me, then I don’t need a mom anymore.”

A Special Mother's Day  || I Got My Mom Back

This opened the communication door for us eventually. Long story short, after many ups and downs, tears and arguments, she finally said sorry. I also realized that my mother tried the best she knew how, but she was crippled by the culture and the cycle of violence from her mom. This past February, I went back to China and spent the longest time with her since I became an adult. I had run away from her after I graduated from high school. She became much softer and all she did when I was there was cook the best meals for me. YES! After 44 years, I finally got my mom back!!!

A Special Mother's Day  || I Got My Mom Back

So this years Mother’s Day is quite special for both of us. I got this Because It’s You by Emporio Armani from Macy’s Mother’s Day perfume collections.

A Special Mother's Day  || I Got My Mom Back

A Special Mother's Day  || I Got My Mom Back

I have had the same one for quite a while and took it back to China with me. My mom had mentioned a few times that she loved the smell. I have to say, this fragrance lives up to the name “Because It’s You”! It is so intoxicating and it lingers on and on. Each time someone was near me, that person would say “Because it’s you and it smells so good” Lol! My mom should receive this right before Mother’s Day. I can’t wait to answer her call and hear what she is going to say. 😉

A Special Mother's Day  || I Got My Mom Back

I am the lucky one that got my mom back. As I have told many people, I am totally at peace now. I know this holiday, like many others, can bring so many emotions and stress out in us. No matter what, I wish you a peaceful day!

A Special Mother's Day  || I Got My Mom Back

Photo credit: Grace Liang/@revanhermiz

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Life After Loss ||Step Mom’s Mother’s Day

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I never thought anyone would celebrate Mother’s Day for me. My step-daughter is only 10 years younger than me and I am 13 years older than my step-son. I was never married before, nor was I a mother. To be honest with you, at first I didn’t even know what to say, or do with my step-kids. It was just too weird. Now when I look back, I felt sorry for my step-kids. They must have been super uncomfortable with me at first as well. Can you image your dad suddenly married to a much younger Chinese girl who looked like a teenager, barely could speak any English, and cooked weird Chinese dishes, like chicken feet?

Life After Loss ||Step Mom's Mothers Day

10 years ago when I just married my man, I knew very little about American culture, or in general how to be a mom. All I knew was I loved my late husband so much, and that love extended to his kids. My ways of caring probably were very different due to cultural differences and it caused some hard times. Later I figured it out… they would never call me mom since they were pretty much already adults when I entered their lives. I shouldn’t even think about whether they would love me back, I just needed be that special person there for them whenever they needed me.

Life After Loss ||Step Mom's Mothers Day

It was the second year after I moved to America. My step-daughter had moved in with us for a while and we had some ups and downs while learning how to live together. There was a very nice Friday evening and I was pulling weeds in my yard. My late husband was back from work and came to me “You better clean up soon because we are going out to eat.” “Really?!” I was very surprised. We were very tight on money at that time and we hadn’t gone out for a long time. My late husband knew what I was thinking and told me that my step-daughter was going to take me out for dinner. I was like, “Why?!” “I don’t know, ask her when we meet her at the restaurant.” He was being very mysterious. During our dinner, my step-daughter handed me a card and asked me to open it. I did and it said “Happy Mother’s Day”. I still remember that in that moment I almost couldn’t control my tears. I also got a pair of very cute earrings as my first Mother’s Day gift.

Life After Loss ||Step Mom's Mothers Day

After many more Mother’s Day celebrations, my late husband passed away. The past 15 months have been a true testimony for me and our family. Losing him had brought us very close to each other, but the different ways and speeds of grieving almost tore us apart too. Luckily, none of us had given up on each other and now we are restoring our relationship again.

Life After Loss ||Step Mom's Mothers Day

This year, my step-daughter knows I am writing this post, so I got my gift early. I have had an eye on this Sì Passione perfume by Giorgio Armani for a long time. The first time I tried this, I fell instantly in love with it. It was soft, sophisticated, and lasted on my skin for a whole day. It just made me feel good about myself and very confident. This new feminine fragrance is perfect for the woman who is passionate, feminine and free. Just like me!!!

Life After Loss ||Step Mom's Mothers Day

By the way, if you are still looking for the perfect Mother’s Day gift, look no further. Check out Macy’s Mother’s Day perfume collections. I like a few more on this list too. Maybe next year. 😉

Life After Loss ||Step Mom's Mothers Day

My step-daughter and her fiancé will come over Mother’s Day weekend to spend time with me and also will help me work in my yard. Anyway, being a step mom, especially being a step mom without my late husband, I am so lucky and blessed to have my step-kids celebrate Mother’s Day with me. I wish all the moms, especially step moms, a very heart warming Mother’s Day!

Life After Loss ||Step Mom's Mothers Day

You can read all the Life After Loss series here and Living with Cancer series here.

Life After Loss ||Step Mom's Mothers Day

Photo credit: Grace Liang/@thepaperdresscode

Thank you for reading, and if you like what you read, please comment below or share it with your friends. Don’t forget to follow me on Facebook and Twitter for new post updates, and follow me on Instagram for all the amazing fashion, beauty and life style products that I will share with you. Of course, don’t forget to check out my Instagram stories daily to know me better as a person. Finally, don’t forget to follow me on YouTube for my fashion, beauty and life style videos. Have a great day and see you soon!

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Grace
http://colorandgrace.com occasionally receives vendor/ brand sponsorships for mentioning their products and services.

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