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Life After Loss – Mother’s day

Life After Loss – Mother’s Day

Several weeks before my husband passed away, we came home with a new estimate for how much time was left for my man. The estimates were just getting shorter and shorter. I was trying very hard to be normal, but seeing how hard eating became for him (one of his favorite activities) and especially after he threw up following some food, I couldn’t help but burst into tears. I just repeated “I don’t want you to die.” My man was hugging me and telling me “You will be fine. It will be very difficult, but you will be fine.” I was highly doubting this, and said “You don’t understand, I can’t live without you. I will just kill myself.” My husband held my head up and looked into my eyes “Have you ever thought about how Ashley (My step-daughter) will feel if you kill yourself? How devastated she will be?”

Life after loss the Mother's day

I suddenly calmed down and woke up from my anger and selfishness. He was right. It doesn’t matter what happens, as long as I am still here, this is still the home for my family. I have a responsibility to take care of them for my man, and for myself.

Life after loss the Mother's day

This is partially because my family has been taking very good care of me since the first day I came to America. I am lucky enough to get to celebrate Mother’s Day too, even if I don’t have my own kids. Ashley and her fiancé (who has been around almost as long as I have) always bring a card, flowers, and a gift. This year, they secretly came to my house, pulled weeds and put down 4 yards of mulch into my garden while I was out. When I came home they were almost done. They also brought me a very cute hanging strawberry pot too. They know how much I love gardening.

Life after loss the Mother's day

There are a lot of times I feel guilty because I don’t feel I deserve it. When I came to this family, Ashley had already graduated from college and my step-son had already finished his first year of college. I haven’t changed a single diaper and now I am getting the benefit of being a mother figure in our family. My man used to say “They may never call you mom, but you are the mom for them because they know you are taking care of them and you are here for them.”

Life after loss the Mother's day

This past Mother’s Day morning, I received an unpleasant comment on my Facebook post. A lady said I don’t really miss my husband, I just miss a maid and complained about how much work I have to do now without him. To be honest with you, I knew these types of comments would eventually happen since I put myself out there in the public, but it still hurt when I read those cold hearted words. I told Ashley about the comment and she was quite angry. She looked into that lady’s profile and asked if she could respond to that lady. Her fiancé even jokingly asked where she lived. Of course, I told them there was no need to get into an argument over online comments, but their response felt so good because they are willing to protect me and fight for me.

Life after loss the Mother's day

There were quite a few people who asked me if I will move back to China after my husband passed away. Each time I heard it I was wondering why they were asking me this weird question. Later, I realized that they know I came to America to marry my husband. Now that he is gone, they felt there would be no purpose for me to stay in a foreign country anymore. But what they didn’t know was my husband did not just give me unconditional true love, but also he gave me a family here, and for them I will stay.

Life after loss the Mother's day

Photos credited: Ashley Buck.

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Effortless Elegance from Edward Mongzar

Effortless Elegance from Edward Mongzar

I have worked with many brands and designers the last two and a half years. But Edward Mongzar is the one who definitely stood out. Why? Read the email from them below:

Effortless elegance from Edward Mongzar

“Our designer Edward has seen you wear lots of ethical pieces recently and when he found your blog and read about your story, he just fell in love with it! He really would love to send you a garment from his Spring / Summer ’17 collection! We really love your happy energy, your love of colors and your complete honesty, the stories you have shared about your life are really inspiring and Edward and I really believe that our brand is made for people like you! Your love for life really comes across well through your blog and YouTube and it’s great to learn in your blog about where your love of fashion began.”

Effortless elegance from Edward Mongzar

Did you see? Fashion is meaningless without human connection and emotional bonding. Even before seeing any of their pieces, I already liked them a lot. 😉

Effortless elegance from Edward Mongzar

Then I did some research and afterwards I found I like this designer, Edward Mongzar, even more. Wonder why? Read his own quote below:

“I am not selling art, history or the future. I am just a designer trying to make the best out of my creative ability to make beautiful clothes”

Effortless elegance from Edward Mongzar

I love an honest person, and I love how humble and practical he is. It kinda fits in with my current life philosophy too. I believe, for an adult, the best thing we can do is know who we are and be the best we can be. There is no need to dream of changing the world. Simply being the best of yourself is already making the world a better place.

Effortless elegance from Edward Mongzar

Edward Mongzar started this ready-to-wear, handcrafted Luxury womenswear label back to 2015 in the UK. He has two specialties incorporated into his designs, one is “Marbling” and the another is Hand Woven Fabrics.

Effortless elegance from Edward Mongzar

The top below is an example of the Marbling technique. Marbling has origins deep set in the days of the T’ang dynasty of China, spreading widely to Japan, India, Iran and Turkey via the Silk Road. Historically, marble dyeing has been exclusive to paper. With the growing interest in marbling on fabric, Edward Mongzar has successfully brought the mediums of marbling and luxury fashion to life, with marble dyeing on luxury fabrics.

Effortless elegance from Edward Mongzar

This top is very well made of flowery silk with unique marbling patterns. The cold shoulder is so right now. It is for sure a one of a kind color pattern piece because there are no two pieces exactly the same due to the marbling process.

Effortless elegance from Edward Mongzar

Now let’s take a look at this Hand Woven Fabric top below. This piece is created using the traditional handloom weaving technique of Nagaland, India. It takes days to create even a very small garment.

Effortless elegance from Edward Mongzar

I really love the color of this top and it is another well made example. Did you see the shape of the sleeves? It is not super dramatic, but adds on some cute flair.

Effortless elegance from Edward Mongzar

From both tops, I can tell that Edward is good at creating garments with simple silhouettes, yet they remain innovative. I do feel effortless elegance when I am wearing Edward Mongzar clothes. I am thinking I may take both of them to Paris next month when I go. 😉

Effortless elegance from Edward Mongzar

Effortless elegance from Edward Mongzar

Photos credited: Grace Liang/Autumn DeGroot.

Thank you for reading, and if you like what you read, please comment below or share it with your friends. Don’t forget to follower me on FaceBook and Twitter for new post updates, and follow me on Instagram for all the amazing fashion, beauty and life style products that I will share with you, of course don’t forget to check out my Instagram story daily to know me better as a person. Finally don’t forget to follow me on YouTube for my fashion, beauty and life style videos. Have a great day and see you soon!

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Grace

http://colorandgrace.com occasionally receives vendor/ brand sponsorships for mentioning their products and services.

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