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Classy trench coat and jeans

Is it supposed to make that noise?

As I hope you know, I’ve been writing about how I learned to drive after moving to America. My fiancé was my driving teacher and his old little car was my practice target! We had survived my first lesson without driving in the nearby lake so after a day or two to recover I was ready to give it another go. Maybe this time I would even get the car out of first gear! The adventures we had driving in our local cemetery ended on a scary note so we thought maybe we would try somewhere else for lesson 2. My fiancé/driving teacher made his way over to a large parking lot on the other side of our small town. This lot was mostly for workers at a local insurance company and was mostly empty after 5pm when they all went home. It was a pretty big lot with nothing but a few light poles to get in my way so it seemed like a safe place to practice. As with the first lesson I stalled the car several times until I got used to using the clutch and gear shift again. I could get going pretty fast before I had to slow down and turn so after several slow laps around the lot, it was time to shift into second gear!

Classy trench coat and jeans street style
Classy trench coat and jeans street style

I managed to push down the clutch, move the shifter back from first into second gear position and let the clutch out. Too quickly! The car jumped and shook and jerked around. I wasn’t expecting it so hit the brake; but without putting the clutch back in! So of course there was some more shaking and bumping until it stalled and everything was quiet again. Everything except for my “driving instructor” who was busy trying to “teach” me what I had just done wrong. I’m always very proud of our relationship and 99% of the time we get along great. But there is that 1% when things aren’t quite as smooth. My future husband had grown up around cars as most Americans have. He even had gotten a little battery powered car that he could actually drive around when he was just a kid. Even though I am a “bit” younger than he is my experience with cars was almost none. I had been in taxis of course and my brother even had a small car that he would sometimes take me for a ride in but that wasn’t until I was an adult. Growing up I was lucky to get to ride on a bus once in a while! So my fiancé couldn’t understand how foreign this whole experience was to me. What he thought would be basic knowledge that EVERYBODY had, wasn’t part of my experience at all. And to me it was just as obvious that this whole driving thing was foreign to me because (pay attention) I AM A FOREIGNER!

Paige skinny jeans
Paige skinny jeans

In general though I have to say my guy is usually very patient with me. He has done a lot of travelling for his job and spent a long time in other countries. So he’s pretty good with understanding other cultures and how difficult it can be to work in a language you aren’t very fluent in. I think since we usually communicate pretty well, probably because we know each other so good, he sometimes forgets that I’m still thinking in Chinese, even though I’m hearing English. At least when I was learning to drive that was true. Now that I’ve been in America almost 8 years and using English most of the time it’s become a lot more natural. I think when I first really noticed that I wasn’t automatically translating in my mind was when I had my first dream in English! Anyway, back to driving lesson number 2, I started the car up again and got it into second gear a lot smoother this time. Around and around the lot we went until I almost got dizzy and it started to get dark. I was feeling a bit more comfortable now and looking forward to lesson number 3. At least I was until my “teacher” informed me that, since we were practicing in a parking lot, in the next lesson, I would park the car! Please come back next time to see how that went!

Classy trench coat and jeans
Classy trench coat and jeans
Classy trench coat and jeans
Classy trench coat and jeans
Classy trench coat and jeans
Classy trench coat and jeans
Classy trench coat and jeans
Classy trench coat and jeans
Classy trench coat and jeans
Classy trench coat and jeans
Classy trench coat and jeans
Classy trench coat and jeans
Classy trench coat and jeans
Classy trench coat and jeans

There will be a giveaway from My Arm Charms starts on 3/16 and ends on 3/30. Don’t forget to check it out later!

Two-tone Trench Coat @New York & Co
Two-tone Bag @Michael Kors
Button Down Shirt @Loft
Cropped Jeans @Paige @Nordstrom Rack
Sunnies @Coach
Necklace @Ann Taylor
Belt @H&M
Shoes @TJ Maxx
Rings @Nordstrom Rack



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Happy Birthday to Me!

What was your best birthday memory?

Mine was on this day exactly 10 years ago. 
In China, most adults don’t really celebrate their birthday until maybe they are more than 60 years old. I was quite surprised at how crazy people in America go for birthdays. Even little kids have huge parties and piles of gifts. When I was growing up, your birthday was pretty much just another day. There were no parties, no cake, no candles and no gifts. The best birthday memory I have from childhood is when my mom cooked two hard boiled eggs for me. For a family that was lacking food, eggs were absolutely the best things that we could imagine. The high school I went to was far from my home so I stayed there in the dorms. It was hard for my family to come visit so I often spent my birthday by myself. Eventually my birthday became a painful day for me. I would have loved my family and friends to remember this special day and do something. But more often than not it was just another day, except with a more disappointing ending than usual. I pretty much learned to not think about this day any more. 


But then I met a foreign man who gave me the first real birthday party in my life. We had met about 10 months before and by the time my birthday was getting closer we had become a pretty serious couple. He had heard that I never had a birthday party and decided it was time to change that. The day we met I was with my best friend, so my boyfriend thought he would contact her to try to help with the surprise. As I said, the Chinese didn’t usually make a big deal out of birthdays and we really weren’t all that familiar with the idea of a surprise party. My boyfriend was hoping to get the whole party together at one of our favorite Shanghai restaurants without me knowing anything. But my friend decided that if the party was for me, I should be the first one to know. So she told me! My boyfriend is now my husband and he’s also still a bit mad at my friend; 10 years later! But I didn’t really care about the surprise. I was just so happy that he had tried to do it. He had contacted my friends and some other people that we had met together and arranged for them to all meet for dinner and birthday cake. And I even got a few presents! It really made me feel I was loved and special!


Of course, now that I’ve been in America we always celebrate my birthday. Maybe not with a party but having a nice dinner with my family every year is wonderful! My first birthday here my stepdaughter even secretly baked a birthday cake with my name on it! Nobody had ever done anything like that for me! It really made me feel that I am important to someone. And I’m happy to say that 9 years after his plan failed, my husband finally pulled off the big surprise party he wanted for me on my birthday last year! And that’s just one of the reasons this foreign man became my dear husband. So now when they ask me what’s on my birthday gift list, I can honestly say that I already got everything I want. But, just to make sure I don’t hurt their feelings, I still give them some suggestions!

My Arm Charms bracelet
My Arm Charms bracelet

So, since it’s my birthday, I’m taking a day off from using my own pictures. And starting today I’m going to change up my Wednesday posts a bit. I’ll be sharing the top picks of current fashion trends, past week’s fashion news and pictures that grabbed my attention. I’m always hoping to have a dialogue with my readers and hope these picks of the week can get some comments going. Please let me know what you think. Do you agree or not? What did you see that made you stop and take another look? Thanks so much again for going on this crazy ride with me and now if you’ll excuse me, I have some candles to blow out!

We are going to Cancun for my Spring break vacation soon, so my first Weekly Fashion Picks will be about a beach vacation:

1. Wink Pink Shift Dress: $49.00 Take 17% Off Sitwide with the code LUCKY

This fun dress is loose enough to hide all the extra pounds we gain during vacation. And the color is so Springtime and girly, It is a perfect conversation piece.

Wink Pink Shift Dress


This classic pattern always reminds me of the beach and ocean.


3. Chevron Bow Back Strapless Maxi: $30.99 Take 17% Off Sitwide with the code LUCKY

A chic maxi dress is a must have for a trip to the beach.

Chevron Bow Back Strapless Maxi

4. Sealed with a Kiss Clutch: $50.00 Take 17% Off Sitwide with the code LUCKY

This will be another eye catching statement piece when you go out for a romantic dinner.

Sealed with a kiss cluch

5. Sasha Tusk Pendant Necklace: $24.00 Take 17% Off Sitwide with the code LUCKY

This delicate necklace with it’s beach vacation color and chic city vibe is a great combination to wear with your vacation T shirt or dress.

Sasha Tusk Pendant necklace

6. Nora Beaded Statement Necklace: $27.00 Take 17% Off Sitwide with the code LUCKY

This necklace can be your statement piece for your maxi dress or also go along with your simple beach cover.

Nora Beaded Statement Necklace

7. Coastal Stone Necklace: $22.00 Take 17% Off Sitwide with the code LUCKY

I love the small fun starfish design to add the perfect pop of color for your T shirt and shorts outfit.

Coastal Stone Necklace

8. Annabell: $9.99 There will be a giveaway from My Arm Charms starts on 3/16 and ends on 3/30. Don’t forget to check it out later!

This bracelet can go with any sporty casual outfit for that jog down the beach.


9. Beach Shimmer: $11.99 There will be a giveaway from My Arm Charms starts on 3/16 and ends on 3/30. Don’t forget to check it out later!

Beach Shimmer

This beach themed statement bracelet adds a sophisticated look to any outfit.

10. Bonita: $9.99 There will be a giveaway from My Arm Charms starts on 3/16 and ends on 3/30. Don’t forget to check it out later!


This versatile bangle looks great on it’s own or mixed in with an arm full of bling to complement your vacation wardrobe.

These are my picks. I really hope to hear about yours! Please let me know what you like, and don’t!



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