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Life after loss live your life wide open

Life After Loss Live Your Life Wide Open

The first time saw the catchphrase “Live your life wide open” for the Buick Cascada, I couldn’t help but smile. It is such a positive and confident attitude towards life. You may remember, I talked about how I feel like my husband is still living through my body, my eyes and my heart, to feel this world and continue enjoying our lives together. So for me, I feel I still have a responsibility to make sure we do all the things on our bucket list, for us. For instance, I rode in a helicopter without doors on my vacation in Hawaii. It was scary, but it was so much fun. I don’t know how to swim and I am afraid of water, but I went snorkeling. I saw a big sea turtle and many beautiful fish. I like this “no door” philosophy now and it has opened my eyes to a much wider world.

Life after loss live your life wide open

The day before our Spring break, one of my co-workers told me: “Enjoy your vacation and you will meet great people”. He was so right. I met many amazing people during my Hawaii trip and everyone taught me some life lessons.

If you read my previous posts, you may already know that my first flight was late so I missed my connecting flight at LAX. When I was running around between two terminals to find my gate, there was a lady who came to me and told me: “Don’t worry, I will help you find your gate.” She was pulling her own carry-on but still ran with me and tried to calm me down. 😉 When we finally got to the gate, the airplane was still there, but the gate was closed. She argued with the staff on my behalf, telling them that she witnessed how hard I tried to make it and they should reopen the gate to let me in. I didn’t get in to my plane, but I was so touched by how an absolute stranger would go through that much trouble to help me.

Life after loss live your life wide open

There was another lady that missed the same flight, just like me. We were both on standby and decided to hang out together. We went to a bar at the airport, had some cocktails and talked about life. Time goes super fast when you have someone to talk to. 😉 We fought so hard to get on a standby flight, but no luck again. She talked me into flying to Vegas with her and then on to Honolulu. We were both upset and tired, so we went to a different bar and continued our conversation, followed by more heart to heart talking, and finally we landed in Vegas. I can’t imagine what my 40 hour trip would have looked like without her company and support. She left Honolulu one day before me and she sent me a message “I am sitting in LAX now and waiting for my second flight. It seems like I will not miss it this time.”

I booked a lot of tours when I was in Hawaii. During the Big Island tour, I met an older widow from Australia. Her husband passed away 8 months ago and she was going on this trip for him too. She is a such nice person but she seemed so lonely all the time. I talked to her quite often, but I didn’t have the ability to make her smile. It broke my heart when I saw her sitting among all the young kids at the airport. She just seemed so lost. She made me realize that my tough time is not really that bad. I can’t imagine what would happen if I lost my man at her age. Would I be able to be happy and enjoy myself ever again?

Life after loss live your life wide open

I usually sat by myself on the tour buses, but there was a young girl who asked me if she could sit next to me when we were on the way to a Luau. So we talked. She is a senior college student from Florida, majoring in journalism. She is also a travel blogger! She showed me some breath taking photos she took early that morning when she and some friends she met on the trip illegally climbed a mountain to watch the sun rise. She told me how dangerous that hike was, but how rewarding the views were. She will be traveling more in a few months because she got an intern position in Spain……She reminded me of when I was young, so brave and you don’t mind taking risks. It seemed like the whole world belonged to me to explore and to conquer back then. It is still not too late, right? 😉

At the luau, I sat across from a young girl on a big long table. We started talking and she introduced me to her brother who sat next to her. My husband still often comes up in my conversations with whoever I’m talking to. I just naturally remember what he once said or did. Anyway, I don’t remember how but I mentioned my husband when I was talking to the girl, Rebekah. So she asked me “Where is your husband?” I instantly teared up and told her about my man. During the luau, the host asked all the honeymooners, who were celebrating anniversaries to come to the stage. There were a few couples celebrating 50 years marriage. The host was very good with words, and the music was very touching, so I just cried in the dark by myself. My husband and I planned to be together for at least 30 or 40 years due to our difference in age. My man had tried so hard to stay with me longer. Rebekah and her brother, David, were standing at the back of the crowd so they could see better. I felt somebody pat my back. It was Rebekah asking “Are you ok?” “Do you want to go to the back with us?” It felt so good to know, even in a strange place, there is someone who cared about me.

Life after loss live your life wide open

On the way back to our hotels, Rebekah and I sat together and we talked a lot. Before we said good-bye, she invited me to have brunch with them a day later. I went and we had a great time. She asked if I would like to join them to see the sunset on the beach that evening. Why not? So I hung out with them again and then we found a rooftop bar next to the beach. We sat there drinking, talking and listening to the island music. They are such nice people with warm hearts. I loved to listen to their stories and was especially impressed by a sentence that Rebekah said: “There are a lot of girls who just can’t live alone. So they feel they need a man.” You see? I like to hangout with wise people so I can learn from them.

Later we found out we were on the same plane back to LA so we hung out again the last day. We went to the flea market and then just strolled on the streets to enjoy the wonderful Hawaii weather and views before we left. Now, we still talk to eachother. Rebekah and I are seriously thinking about taking a trip together in the future. 😉

Live your life wide open so you can meet great people, try new things and grow wiser!

Life after loss live your life wide open

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Life After Loss – The First Time Traveling Alone

Life After Loss – The First Time Traveling Alone

My husband was the person who took care of everything when we traveled. My only job was to show up and be pretty. He used to encourage me to pack many outfits that could be used later for my blog. In his backpack, there would be snacks, drinks, makeup touchup essentials, a jacket, and a pair of flat shoes for me since he knew at some point I would have enough of the heals and I’m always cold. 😉

Life after loss the first time travel alone

This trip was a totally different story. The night before I left, I realized my LV or Chanel small cross body bags were not that practical. I went out bought myself my very first backpack. Since now it is me who has to carry everything, I packed really light and gave up on heels and fancy dresses.

Life after loss the first time travel alone

For me, the first goal of this trip was not losing my phone or wallet. The second was to not get sick or hurt and the last one was to enjoy myself. 😉 I know, my standards are pretty low. I was quite nervous about this trip since I was living in a bubble the last 10 years as a princess. Now, I feel like I am lacking a lot of life skills. I was crying the night before and really wished he was there with me for the trip.

Life after loss the first time travel alone

My first flight from Detroit to LA was late and sat on the runway for 45 minutes. I was told my second flight would wait for me. I ran from one terminal to another and when I finally got to the gate, it was closed. I was put on standby for 4 hours, where I literally stood by the flight podium for two hours, but still didn’t get on the flight. Later, I had to fly to Vegas and then finally to Honolulu. My 12 hour flight turned into a 40 hour nightmare. But, on day 2 when I finally stepped into my hotel room, I opened the window and saw the ocean view and instantly felt everything was worth it. 😉

Life after loss the first time travel alone

But it seemed like the bad luck was still with me on day 3. I booked the active volcano tour to the Big Island. I had to get up at 4am to catch my flight. I went downstairs to get myself a cup of coffee. I sat on the shuttle bus and took a sip, my belly instantly felt burning. When I looked down, my coffee had spilled and already spread all over my chest. GREAT! I never knew that I need to double check whether the cap was closed completely. It was always my husband who handed me drinks and he would make sure everything was ok. This was my once in a lifetime opportunity to take some great photos when I hop on my helicopter to see the volcanos and lava, and now my whole front was covered with coffee! I didn’t swear or get upset, I just told myself I needed to buy a t-shirt before I get into my chopper. Long story short, after many attempts, I finally got myself a tee and was ready to go up… then I was told the helicopter tour had to be cancelled due to the weather. What?!

Life after loss the first time travel alone

I went hiking in Volcano National Park with my tour group. I couldn’t help but search for my man. Although there was nothing that looked familiar other than the sky, I suddenly missed his warm and thick hands. He always held my hand wherever we went. We hiked together a few times and we always had so much to talk and laugh about. But now, it was just so quiet. At end of the day, we finally saw lava and a place where the lava went into the ocean. Standing on the cliff alone, facing the ocean I suddenly bursted into tears. “We made it honey” was all I could say in my head at that moment. On the way back to the airport, I sat alone and cried the whole way. Suddenly familiar music started to play, it was one of our favorite songs called ‘Somewhere Over the Rainbow’ by Israel Kamakawiwo’Ole. I instantly smiled even with tears still in my eyes. I know it was my husband trying to comfort me.

Life after loss the first time travel alone

After the first 3 tough days, I decided I had enough and it was time for me to enjoy myself. I am on vacation, not in a prison, right? So I did my homework and found some great restaurants and more activities to do. I finally hopped on a chopper to see the whole island of Oahu. Although it was not the lava view I initially planned on, the experience was amazing. I also had my first snorkeling experience. After that, my real vacation started. I was surprised that I was still very happy eating dinner at a restaurant by myself. I initiated a lot of conversations with strangers and I was so grateful because I met so many great people on this trip.

Life after loss the first time travel alone

Life after loss the first time travel alone

Life after loss the first time travel alone

Now I am home safe with my phone and wallet. 😉 The most important outcome from this trip is I feel more confident. It was kind of like a test for myself. When I am at home, I’m comfortable and I don’t have a lot of difficult situations come up, but this trip showed me how things could go wrong. Lucky, I was able to manage everything and still enjoyed my time. Now, to plan my summer trip to Paris!;)

Life after loss the first time travel alone

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