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Life After Loss My Solo Trip to Paris Part 1

Life After Loss My Solo Trip to Paris Part 1

My late husband and I had a bucket list that we created a few years ago. Paris was on the top of the list.

Life After Loss My Solo Trip to Paris Part 1

In the summer of 2010 we spent several weeks in Munich, Germany. What a great home base for exploring the Alps and beyond! I had always dreamt of seeing and smelling the lavender fields in the Provence region of France.

Life After Loss My Solo Trip to Paris Part 1

Unfortunately, it’s still a dream as we got there about two weeks too late! Timing really IS everything! Oh don’t worry, we still made the best of the trip and visited Lyon on our way to the beaches of Cannes before heading back to Munich. The concierge at our hotel had directed us to a small hidden gem of a restaurant in the old part of Lyon. I’ll never forget walking along the narrow stone streets, around this corner and that to arrive at the open walled eatery. It was decorated in rich dark wood and heavy soft velvet curtains. Mmmm, the wine, the croissants, the roast duck…SORRY! I got lost in a memory for a minute!

Life After Loss My Solo Trip to Paris Part 1

Fast forward to a few months before my man passed away, we talked about all the places we had been to and where we really wanted to go next. He said if he could pull through this time, we will go to Paris and then go to see the lavender. A few weeks before his departure, he said “You may have to go to Paris without me”. I was trying to put on a rave face and joke around by saying “Sure, I will send you postcards.” But tears were already all over my face. I told him, I would look for him wherever I go. He held my head to his chest and said “Don’t look for me, just go see the world and create your own memories .”

Life After Loss My Solo Trip to Paris Part 1

So last week I went to Paris alone! I thought about staying there longer and visiting Provence to see the lavender. At the last minute, I decided to not be so ambitious.

Life After Loss My Solo Trip to Paris Part 1

Before I left for this trip, there were so many people that told me not to go. I do not speak or understand French, and I had never traveled internationally alone. My family doctor even yelled at me “Have you watched the movie taken II? Have you seen the news about those crazy terrorists? ” The night before my flight, I was stopping at a red light and randomly turned my head to my left. The sign on the theater building said”Paris can wait”.

Life After Loss My Solo Trip to Paris Part 1

What is it?!? Is it a warning sign that my man sent to me? It made me nervous. I still went. On the way to the airport, I gave my step-daughter directions about how to handle certain things…. just in case!Lol

Life After Loss My Solo Trip to Paris Part 1

I had fully prepared myself that this might not be an easy trip. Based on the experience of traveling to Hawaii alone in March, it took me 48 hours to get to Honolulu. So I packed enough things just in case I had to spend the night at the airport in NYC. 😉 The first flight was on time ( YES!!!) . As the second flight was boarding on time I thought “Maybe I am lucky this time”. Everyone on that plane was so friendly and helped me put my super heavy carry-on to the overhead bin. The older gentleman who sat next to me chatted with me, He had been to Paris many times and gave me quite bit info. At end of the conversation he said “You will love Paris and you will meet a lot of people, especially a lot of man, they love beautiful women.” Lol!

Life After Loss My Solo Trip to Paris Part 1

Find out more about my Paris trip next Friday.

Life After Loss My Solo Trip to Paris Part 1

You can read all Life After Loss series here and Living with Cancer series here.

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Life After Loss Surviving the First Wedding Anniversary

Life After Loss Surviving the First Wedding Anniversary

A few months before my husband passed away, we had a special conversation regarding his funeral arrangements. In his written wishes, he already stated that he didn’t want a traditional funeral, instead he wanted a big happy party. He was quite excited about the idea and said that it would be so cool that all his family and friends would come together, hold drinks and talk about his quick wit and the countless cool jokes he had made.

Life After Loss Surviving First Weddings Anniversary

To honor his wish, we decided to host this party on 6/18, our 10 year wedding anniversary. We later realized that the same day was also Father’s Day, so we switched the date to 17th, last Saturday. The preparation for this party started in April. We got a new roof, repaired the pool, put 6 trucks of mulch in the yard and planted a big container garden around the pool and patio. The theme for his party was “Travel Around the World.” So the decorations, eating utensils, food and drinks all followed this theme.

Life After Loss Surviving First Weddings Anniversary

The weather called for 50% rain that day but I knew my man would find a way to avoid it. He loved parties and certainly would not ruin his own. 😉 There were nearly a hundred people who showed up and everyone had a great time. There were 7 people who gave speeches about my man, some from his work, some family, and some life long friends. The speeches had to be my favorite moments… to listen to all the funny stories about my husband. Sometimes I even envy how he had touched so many people’s lives and left such a positive mark.

Life After Loss Surviving First Weddings Anniversary

The success of my husband’s life celebration party was the best gift on our 10th wedding anniversary and felt like medicine to my broken heart. After everyone left my house, I was so tired, but finally felt some relief. I was crying, laughing and talking to my man’s memory book and his ashes. I told him we did it. As promised, we gave him the best celebration party we could. He deserved it.

Life After Loss Surviving First Weddings Anniversary

After several months of dealing with grief, I know I should ask for help when I need it. About a week before our wedding anniversary, I messaged my step-daughter and told her I should not be alone that day.;) That was her first Father’s Day without her dad too so we kind of really needed each other’s company. We had Dim Sum for brunch and Korean BBQ for dinner. We even shared a whole bottle of Korean liquor. 😉

Life After Loss Surviving First Weddings Anniversary

The first wedding anniversary after my man passed away turned out to be a pretty good day and I didn’t even cry. There are choices I have to make every day and I chose to make happy choices, as my man would. I appreciate the wonderful times my man and I shared and I will carry on the positive outlook as long as I can.

Life After Loss Surviving First Weddings Anniversary

You can read all Life After Loss series here and Living with Cancer series here.

Photos credited: Grace Liang/Ashley Alles

Thank you for reading, and if you like what you read, please comment below or share it with your friends. Don’t forget to follower me on FaceBook and Twitter for new post updates, and follow me on Instagram for all the amazing fashion, beauty and life style products that I will share with you, of course don’t forget to check out my Instagram story daily to know me better as a person. Finally don’t forget to follow me on YouTube for my fashion, beauty and life style videos. Have a great day and see you soon!

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Grace

http://colorandgrace.com occasionally receives vendor/ brand sponsorships for mentioning their products and services.

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