Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

Physical fitness is easy to see from the mirror, or a scale. But emotional fitness is quite hard to see so it makes it difficult to manage. I thought I have done so much work on myself the past two years, and I am pretty good at understanding and managing my emotions. But the holiday brings so much mixed emotions and I was surprised by how emotional I was, again!

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

I hosted our annual family Thanksgiving dinner at my house. We had great food like usual and a great time hanging out with my step-kids, especially my two adorable grand daughters. After everybody left that night, I suddenly felt so lonely. I haven’t had this feeling for many months. Then my friend called me. During the conversation, somehow I was hoping this friend can save me from the horrible loneliness I was feeling at that moment. Since we are quite close, I thought this person should not just understand me, but also should take care of me by fulfilling my neediness. Obviously, this friend was quite confused and frustrated with not really knowing what to do.

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

It took me about two days finally understood myself and re-center my emotions. This event was a great opportunity for me to notice that maybe I have gotten my physical body back through almost two years of gym routines and healthy eating. I am at a pretty good physical fitness level. But my emotional fitness level is still low at certain areas. So how to improve my emotional fitness became my recent focus.

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

The first thing came to my head was, how to improve? I didn’t really know at first, then a few days ago when I was in my gym class. I figured it out. To improve my emotional fitness just like the physical fitness, I need to know where I am first and then set a goal with what I would like to achieve in 3 months, half year or one year. I have pretty clear self-awareness for the most part, but for certain areas, I have to just put more effort to figure it out so I can get the inner peace that I always wanted. Those emotional areas are like the stubborn tummy fat. It will take a lot of work to see the results.

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

Then the second question was, how to figure it out? Or what is the action to reach my emotional fitness goals? At this moment, what I have learned the most effective way for me, was to step out of my emotions for a while. It sounds weird, but I have learned that I must pause my feelings, then step out to watch it like a movie, or a play. You know we often become very clear when we listen to others story but so struggled when we are IN the story? So I observe it like others story and this way I can understand it better. I also tried a new approach after I have learned the golden rule of “Focus on what I want”. If you are not sure what I am talking about, you can read my previous post “BEING THE BEST OF ME || FOCUS ON WHAT I WANT” to get a better idea. Basically, if I focus on the problem, all my brain can see, my body can feel is this problem. Eventually, this problem became the major thing of my day and my life. For example, I lost my late husband. It was for sure a huge problem. I can focus on “Why this happened to me? What I have done wrong to get punished so badly? Why I am always having bad luck?” Obviously, this focus will result in me being angry, suffering more in pain and depressed. But if I shift my focus on other things, like my fashion dream, I started to feel the joy of life again and it helps me to rebuild my confidence and emotional strength. Temporally not thinking about the problem that I lost my late husband, helped me gained the power to revisit the problem again with a better level of emotional fitness. I was used to so focus on the problem because I want to find out why and how to solve it. It only made the problem bigger and I suffer even more.

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

It is just like the physical fitness, emotional fitness takes a lot of effort to work on daily by observing, reflecting, letting go for a while, learning more ways to handle it and eventually to gain a more powerful mindset that can turn everything into possibility and make the best out of everything happens in life. Practice, practice and practice, I am determined to lose my emotional stubborn belly fat! Lol! Where are you at with your emotional fitness?

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

You can read all the Life After Loss series here and Living with Cancer series here and Being the Best of Me here.

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

Photo credit: Grace Liang

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How to Get a Stranger to Take Great Photos (of you!)

My late husband was my personal photographer. So after he passed away, I had to find whoever that is available to take my photos. I usually plan ahead of time to ask my step-daughter, or a few friends to help me with during the weekends. Then I started my solo travel journey and I realized that my selfie skills are so limited. In order to get some great photos, I have to learn to ask strangers to take photos of me. As you can imagine, it was not easy at the beginning. What if they say no? What if they are bad people? What if they drop my camera and damage it? Lol, the struggles are real. But after nearly two years of practice, I think I found some tricks to find the right person and train them quickly for my photos. All the photos you see in this post were taken by strangers, so the photo credit goes to those unsung heroes! Lol!

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1. Look For the Right Person

I usually look for a couple or a group of people with relaxing body laungage. If they are in a hurry, or in a bad mood, the chance of helping me with photos defiantly will be small. I have found that the best people to ask are usually younger generation from 20+ to 30+, as they have a sound understanding of how technology works, how to hold a camera steady for a good shot, and what photo layout that is good for Instagram. Better yet look for someone holding a DSLR camera that means they’ll know what they are doing.

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2. Safety

I have not personally encounter any bad person yet. But I know in a lot of touristy places there’s always thieves on the lookout for an easy target. So I have to be careful with who I trust my camera with. As I mentioned above, I usually do a quick evaluation about the people I think may help me. I often look at their facial expression to see if it is relaxed or kind, their body language if confident or depressed. Their style is another way for me to tell if I can trust them as well. For example, backpacks, sporty shoes, camera, that means they are tourist as well so probably harmless. If I travel in big cities, I usually pick well dressed people since they can afford what they are wearing, there is no need to worry they will take my camera, right? Lol! Of course another thing as a single woman, I have to make sure the person I ask will not want to harm me in other ways. That is way I pick couples or a group people mixed with both genders.

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3. Introduce Yourself

Now that you have your target, the next step is to introduce yourself. My typical line will be “Excuse me! I am a blogger and need some photos for my blog, could you please take a few photos of me?” There was only one time I got rejected. They were two Chinese girls and their facial expression was like “What do you want?” Lol. I am a happy person in general, so I think my big smile, talkative personality helped with making it easy for others too! 😉

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4. Give as much direction as possible

I am not so camera savvy and the one I use just points and shoot type. So it is pretty easy for others to use. I give them less than one-minute training about how to use my camera and what exactly I want from that shot. After the first photo, I do ask to take a look first and then see if I need more shots.;) So it is very important that at the begining you ask them that you will need 5 minutes of their time to get a few more different angles.

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5. Exchange the favor

In an upside note, approaching people that are alone as well can sometimes be easier than people who are in a group because they are hoping to find someone to take their photos as well. Even if the people with someone else, I still ask if they need me to take photos of them.

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6. Say Thank you!

Well, this last point is really just good manners. Big smile and a sense of humor, makes everyone’s day better, right?

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Thank you for reading! If you like what you read, please comment below, or share it with your friends. Don’t forget to follow me on Facebook and Twitter for new updates. For all the amazing fashion/beauty and lifestyle products I share, also follow me on Instagram. Remember to check out my Instagram stories daily to know me better as a person. Finally, don’t forget to follow me on YouTube for my fashion/beauty and lifestyle videos. Have a great day and see you soon!

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Grace

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