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Normally, I love to focus on counting my blessings. But today, I will share with you the HUGE messes that make up the not so pretty portions of my past. Since it’s a long list, today will be part 1 and I invite you to come back tomorrow to read part 2.
The first mess I would like to discuss was growing up in poverty in China. Below is a list of some basic milestones to help paint a picture of what my early life looked like. Keep in mind, when you are REALLY poor, personal hygiene is not at the top of the survival list.
First toy or doll: Never
First photo – black and white: 1985 (11 years old)
First time I saw a car: 1985 (11 years old)
First time I brushed my teeth: 1986 (12 years old)
First time we had a black and white TV: 1987 (13 years old)
First living space with indoor restroom: 1990 (16 years old)
First living space with running water: 1990 (16 years old)
First time I had my own room: 1995 (21 years old)
Complete end of hunger: 2001 (27 years old)
First time flying on an airplane: 2002 (28 years old)
First time seeing a dentist: 2002 (28 years old)
First birthday party: 2005 (31 years old)
Learned how to drive and owned my first car: 2008 (34 years old)
Do you know what comes with growing up in poverty?
Children who grow up poor are more likely to be poor as adults. Why? They are more likely to have limiting beliefs regarding money which they inherited from their family and their environment. The longer you grow up in poverty, the harder it is to graduate from school. With less education comes less skills and in turn less opportunities.
Growing up poor can carry long-term health implications as well. Why? Stress! If you have to worry about where your next meal is coming from, your in survival mode that whole day and you cannot relax or enjoy yourself. Poverty can also harm a child’s brain development and lead to lifelong mental health problems (for example, depression).
What else comes with growing up in poverty? One’s general attitude towards life is that of hopelessness and despair. Even now I often notice these familiar feelings in my heart that tell me that a poor girl like me, no matter how hard I try, will not be able to make it. But now I know it is not true and it is just thr leftover feelings from my past. I am not that hopeless, poor girl anymore!
“It matters not what someone is born, but what they grow to be.”
The family we were born to, whether we live in poverty in or comfort, is loving or abusive, have parents or no parents, doesn’t determine our future. We all have free will! It is our choice!
It is harder for those of us who were less fortunate in our early lives but it makes us so much stronger and more grateful for what we have later on in life. So how do you heal yourself and live your dream life if you were like me and grew up in poverty? It depends on only TWO things.
One, your desire, willingness, determination and your attitude. Do you REALLY want to heal yourself and live your dream life? Or deep down do you believe or accept that all you can have or deserve to have is what you have right now?
Two, your knowledge and the resources to get the life you desire.
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If you look at the photo above you can see the picture of what my old house looked like. Since we didn’t have money to buy a camera, I found a picture of a house that looked very similar to the house I grew up in.
If you look below this, you can see a photo of my current place.
If a very poor girl like me can heal themselves and live their dream life again, you can too!
Follow me and my come back and read part 2 so you can see how you can heal yourself and have you dream life too!
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional!