• Being the best of me,  Fashion

    Being the Best of Me || The Healing Journey from an Abusive Childhood

    Two weeks ago during a meditation program called Tree of Life in Train the Trainer with Jack Canfield, I finally broke through and felt the major healing from my abusive childhood. My parents had an arranged marriage. They hated each other but still chose to stick together after daily fights. We were super poor with a dirt floor, straw roof and there wasn’t running water, indoor toilet or electricity. Above suffering from poverty, I had been claimeed as worthless by my mom. According to her, no one will love me since I am so ugly and have a very bad personality. According to her, I am lazy, bad behaved and…

  • Being The Best of Me || Overcoming the Pain of Childhood Abuse and Neglect
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    Being The Best of Me || Overcoming the Pain of Childhood Abuse and Neglect

    Some pain just doesn’t heal over time. For me, the pain of my childhood abuse and neglect from my mom seems like a disease that no matter how hard I try to forget or to move on, it still comes back to haunt me over and over again. The physical abuse holds no power on me anymore, but the emotional abuse still lingers there and affect my behaviors in so many unnoticeable ways. I’m a forty-five-year-old woman that runs my own business, have my own family, but often feel hopeless to deal with this pain. It just doesn’t go away! The symptoms are constantly worrying about doing something wrong, low…

  • Being The Best of Me || The Real Self-Love
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    Being The Best of Me || The Real Self-Love

    What is real self-love? Self-love seems to be one of the hottest words at this moment. Some people think self-love is self-care. For example, a lazy doing nothing day, a bubble bath, a massage and a Netflix day. Some people think self-love is they do whatever to please themselves. For example, buying a designers handbag, booking an exotic vacation, or becoming a serial dater just to have fun. What is your definition of self-love? Self-love for me is not just those things we do to please ourselves on the surface. Self-love is an on-going process of soul searching and becoming my best self. Someone may ask, “What if you reach…

  • Being the Best of Me || Re-enter the Dating World In My 40s
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    Being the Best of Me || Re-enter the Dating World In My 40s

    It has been more than two years that I lost my late husband who was also my best friend and my soul-mate. I often joke about myself as the master of survivals. I have survived from hunger and poverty, from family abuse and domestic abuse, from losing my father and losing my late husband. Now I came to a conclusion that there is no situations that I can’t get out off and turned it around to a happy ending. All the suffers that I had been through have turned me into this strong and happy women today who has the laser focus on my dreams and to be the best…

  • Being The Best of Me || What I Say to Myself Matters
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    Being The Best of Me || What I Say to Myself Matters

    Our emotions are often triggered by what others say or do to us. But the hard truth is really what I say to myself matters. It is all about the stories that I tell myself to create the reality of my life. The second year after I moved to America from China, I started working as a Chinese tutor at our local public schools to help a few Chinese kids. Most of those students spoke almost no English. At that time, my English was quite limited as well. I felt very uncomfortable with speaking and writing during our weekly tutor meeting. I took notes by writing it in Chinese and…

  • Being the Best of Me || Develop New Habits to Create a Better Life
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    Being the Best of Me || Develop New Habits to Create a Better Life

    Being the Best of Me || Develop New Habits to Create a Better Life We are our habits. What is a habit? A habit is something you do daily without thinking much about it. It is the unique way that you think, you speak, you act in an autopilot way. Habits become such a part of our routine that they become who we are. Want to be a different or a better, happier person? Just start some new habits! On the other hand, a habit can be something that you can try and break. For example, someone who smokes about 10 times a day knows that this isn’t the best…

  • Being the Best of Me ||Creating A Vision Board To Manifest My Dream Life
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    Being the Best of Me ||Creating A Vision Board To Manifest My Dream Life

    See it, feel it, and believe it! This is the power of a vision board. Jack Canfield has said that “Creating a vision board is probably one of the most valuable visualization tools available to you.” A vision board is a concrete representation of your desires for your dream life with images that you can see. They are so fun to create. Just think about that you were granted some superpower and you can get everything you dare to imagine. So just make your dreams as big and as wild as you can! Lol! I for sure had so much fun to make mine! A vision board also can serve…

  • Being The Best of Me || What Would You Direct The Movie About Your Life?
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    Being The Best of Me || What Would You Direct The Movie About Your Life?

    During the holiday seasons, I like to watch movies to build up my holiday cheers. A few nights ago I watched The Christmas Chronicles and really loved it. I am not from a long line family of true believers, lol! But I really believe in miracle of life. I think Santa represents the miracle power that we all have in us that we just have to choose to believe in ourselves. So this movie got me thinking, what if I am the director of this movie called MY OWN LIFE? What type of movie am I going to make? Drama? Action? Adventure? Comedy? Crime? Family? Fantasy? Mystery? Romance? Lol! There…

  • Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness
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    Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

    Physical fitness is easy to see from the mirror, or a scale and if you want to work on this try beginner tennis lessons. But emotional fitness is quite hard to see so it makes it difficult to manage. I thought I have done so much work on myself the past two years, and I am pretty good at understanding and managing my emotions. But the holiday brings so much mixed emotions and I was surprised by how emotional I was, again! I hosted our annual family Thanksgiving dinner at my house. We had great food like usual and a great time hanging out with my step-kids, especially my two…

  • Being The Best Of Me || Focus On What I Want
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    Being The Best Of Me || Focus On What I Want

    Everybody knows we need to focus on what we want. But the reality is we often focus on what we DON’T want. Last week, I was invited to an event in a nearby city in Michigan. The night before my trip when I chatted with a friend, I said something like this ” Let’s see how long it will take me to get there since I always get lost.” My friend pointed out to me “Be positive!” I suddenly realized that my energy focused on what exactly I don’t want!! Why am I doing this?! It kept me thinking. Later on, I think I found my answer. The fears of…

  • Being The Best Of Me || Taking 100% Responsibility For My Life
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    Being The Best Of Me || Taking 100% Responsibility For My Life

    This past April I started my soul searching journey. It all started me wanting some answers about why I lost my husband and what happens after a person passes away? I have been listening to spiritual and motivational Youtube videos every morning since then, and that is how I got familiar with Jack Canfield’s work. I took his ten-day challenge online course and loved it so much, so I signed up for one day workshop in Denver. During this workshop last month, I also signed up for a one year program with him called Train the Trainer. I am so excited to learn more from him and give a more…

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