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    Gracefully Grieving: What Does It Mean To Be a Widow?

    People often ask me, “why did you choose to be a Grief Healing Coach?” I have to say that in a million years, I had never planned on being a Grief Healing Coach. But God has his own ways of directing people to where they need to be. My dream job since I was little was to either be a police officer, lawyer or journalist. I wanted to be someone who could help others who needed to be protected and give them a voice (you may see a pattern here). Growing up in poverty in China, all of these jobs were far out of my reach because if you didn’t…

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    Using Affirmations to Achieve Your Goals

    The one thing that is used a lot when coaching and training others is the power of affirmations. Affirmations are positive statements that can help you challenge and overcome your self-sabotaging behaviors and negative thoughts. When you repeat affirmations often and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes and remove limiting beliefs. Below are my affirmations from last year. Now when I look back, these affirmations have helped me reach the point I am at now which is that I truly believe I am loved by God, that I am good enough and worthy enough in God’s eyes. “I am so much more than my emotions, my…

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    Achieve More With Your Life Plan

    I have developed the habit of making a list of yearly goals for my life plan for the past 7 years now. The key for better results is to go back to that list and check the progress of each goal on a monthly basis. This allows us to move things around (if needed) to help make things happen. Below are a few categories on my life plan for 2020 but as you can imagine, some of my goals have become more difficult to reach due to COVID. All we can do is make the best out of whatever we have been given, right? Health 1. Heal my shoulder and…

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    Gracefully Grieving: Changing Our Belief System

    When and how did you choose your belief system? Everyone has their own belief system that is based on many factors. But there is one thing these belief systems (how we see the world and ourselves) have in common: their ability to be changed either willingly or unwillingly. In my last post, I explained how the stories we tell ourselves about losing a loved one can be the source of suffering. Today, I will go even deeper into helping you figure out why we even choose these stories and our blueprint in the first place. I will use myself as an example. Below is the timeline of my own journey…

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    The Stories We Tell Ourselves About Losing a Loved One.

    What happened? What are the FACTS that make up the story of what happened to your deceased love one? The facts are the part of the story that DOESN’T CHANGE. This doesn’t include your feelings or your response to the story, simply only the facts. Here are the facts in my story of loss. My father died from cancer. My late husband died from cancer. What are the plain facts that make up your story of loss? Now, feel free to tell your own version of the stories regarding your loss. Here is the story I used to tell myself after my dad died: Having an abusive mom, my dad…

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    Finding a Balance Between Mind, Body and Soul

    Life is a balance of our mind, body and soul. Do you believe one area is more important than the others? Some of us believe inner beauty is more important than outer beauty, others believe a smart mind is more important than a fit and healthy body, while others still believe a spiritual life is more important than the mind and body. I believe the mind, body and soul are all equally important. If we ignore one of these areas, our lives become unbalanced and incomplete. Don’t settle with the limiting belief that you can’t have it all. There are many people who DO have it all! They have a…

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    The GOLDEN Formula to Take Back Control of Your Grief!

    This GOLDEN formula has totally transformed my life. It has helped me overcome poverty, family abuse, domestic violence, moving to a foreign country, and losing my husband to cancer. This formula helped me to live a joyful life again and it will change your life if you apply it too! Are you ready to suffer less and heal faster? Here you go! E+R=O E represents the EVENT, such as a loss of your job, divorce, loss of a loved one, etc.R represents the RESPONSE, not the reaction. The difference between a response and a reaction is that a reaction is what you instantly do right after something happens without thinking.…

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    What life looks like for an empowered and healed woman!

    Just close your eyes and imagine your brand new life now. You wake up from a good night’s sleep, stretching your arms while opening your eyes. Instantly you smile and your heart is full of appreciation. You love your new, cozy home. Everything is just the way you always wanted; simple, yet it speaks volumes about who you are. You get up and get yourself a cup of your favorite coffee, getting dressed while listening to your favorite audiobook. Today is a very special day. It is the wedding anniversary of you and your late husband. You scan your whole body for any signs of pain or sorrow but you…

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    How to Heal Using Your Built-in Energy Healing System

    As a widow who has experienced grief firsthand, I have to tell you that you may be grieving the wrong way!! I know this statement may make some of you angry. Before you start to throw eggs, bricks or knives at me, just hear me out! We have all been taught that only time will heal us and that we have no power over our grief. Therefore, all we can do is to wait out our grief. This means that we have to suffer for a long time and that our grieving journey will never end. Does this sound familiar? Have you ever asked yourself if this is actually true?…

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    Gracefully Grieving: 5 Step Process to Bring You More Peace!

    While talking to a friend yesterday, she expressed the anger, fear, guilt, frustration and overwhelming feelings she was having about an unknown future life after the loss of her husband she had been married to for 30+ years. This is exactly what grief feels like. There are so many intense emotions and it’s almost impossible to find peace, right? With grief our old life is gone, the door has closed, and there is no way we can go back. We don’t like our new normal and we just want the old life that we had. Does this sound familiar? Feeling like this is where our suffering comes from. Today, I…

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    Changing Our Mindset in Order to Heal from Grief

    Have you ever wished you owned a time machine so you could go back and save your deceased loved one? I know I did many times! I begged, yelled and bargained to bring my husband back. It didn’t work of course! This took place a few months after I lost my late husband during one of my hour long crying spells on his ashes. I was so tired of being miserable and decided to change my reaction in order to intentionally save myself from my misery. Now, 3 years after I lost him, changing my reaction was the turning point of my life and I am able to live my…

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