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Being The Best of Me || What Would You Direct The Movie About Your Life?

During the holiday seasons, I like to watch movies to build up my holiday cheers. A few nights ago I watched The Christmas Chronicles and really loved it. I am not from a long line family of true believers, lol! But I really believe in miracle of life. I think Santa represents the miracle power that we all have in us that we just have to choose to believe in ourselves. So this movie got me thinking, what if I am the director of this movie called MY OWN LIFE? What type of movie am I going to make? Drama? Action? Adventure? Comedy? Crime? Family? Fantasy? Mystery? Romance? Lol! There are so many choices!

Being The Best of Me || What Would You Direct The Movie About Your Life?

In fact, I AM already the movie director of my own 44 years of life. If I watch my own life movie as a stranger on Netflix, I have to say it is quite an interesting one. At least to myself, Lol! It has a very humble beginning, struggles in conflicts with survival, love, loss, finding life purpose and living life fully. My movie shows me as a human being at my best, my worst, and everything in-between. But it all has one pattern, that is eventually I made it to a happy ending.

Being The Best of Me || What Would You Direct The Movie About Your Life?

Based on the average of life expectancy, I probably still have at least another 40 years of life to continue in this movie called Grace’s Life Story. What would I direct the movie about my life intentionally? Lol, it sounds like I need a vision board and life plan before writing this script for my movie, right? In fact, I do have a vision board for 2018 and plan to update it soon before the New Year. I usually block one day to write down a super detailed life plan too. I have to talk about that in a later post. šŸ˜‰

Being The Best of Me || What Would You Direct The Movie About Your Life?

Anyway, according to where I am at now in my life story, I determined to create more happy ending stories. I know there is no way to be happy all the way to the end, but at least, I know how this life thing works by now. Lol! It’s not the life event decides my quality of life, it is what I think, or do with those life events. For example, I lost my late husband, this event interrupted the quality of my life, but after I survived, I created a new way to be happy again. The new way is to take the life after the loss as an opportunity to rediscover myself and create a new way of living without him.

Being The Best of Me || What Would You Direct The Movie About Your Life?

So the quality of life starts with how I communicate with myself or choose to believe. For example, a few days ago a friend said that he thinks I am a successful person. I was like, no, I don’t think so. I am still so far far away from making the million dollars that I wanted to start my Life after loss foundation. I only barely can support myself now. Lol. Later when I chatted with a different friend. He corrected me “You ARE successful! You have overcome many times and turned your life around. You are doing what you love and happy most of the times. Being successful is not just about money.” I was like, that is so true! How can I fall back to the old habit again?! I instantly felt different. Lol. Yes, I am successful!

Being The Best of Me || What Would You Direct The Movie About Your Life?

Those moments of realization just showed again that we determine how we feel by the meaning we give to the event, or whatever is happening in our life. Now I know this secret, I can decide what meanings to give everything in my life. Damaged childhood? Naah, it was just hardships that I encountered and I can heal myself by learning how to love myself and forgive others. Life is unfair and I am depressed because I lost my father and late husband? No, it was just the push to make me being truly independent and pursuit higher level of self-awareness without attaching myself to anyone. I am out of luck finding my soulmate again since I already got one before? Naah! I am very experienced on how to create a close relationship so when I see it, I can recognize it. What my life movie will be about in the next 40+ years? I determined it will be about passion and love for life. My movie will be a combination of Adventure, Family, Romance, Comedy and very little Drama! What Would You Direct The Movie About Your Life?

Being The Best of Me || What Would You Direct The Movie About Your Life?

By the way, since everyone is running around to find some perfect gifts, I would like to be more useful and share something that I think will be a life saver. The HOLIDAYS WITH HAPPY CARDS! Happy Cards is a gift card that combines top brands across the country. There are so many combinations of those cards. For example, Happy Dining, Happy Kids, Happy Teens, Happy Lady, Happy Guy, Happy Beauty, Happy Student and Happy Bride. I got myself a Happy Dining since I am a foodie. I also hosting a giveaway this evening on my Instagram account. Make sure you enter to win a $100 Happy Lady card!

There are so many reasons I love Happy Cards!

* Make buying the perfect gift as easy as giving it. Avoid the chaos of holiday shopping, and the stress of wondering what to give that special someone. Get happy, give Happy. The only gift card that pairs them with their favorite brands.

* Take the guessing out of gift-giving. Keep your holidays happy, with the gift card that pairs your favorite people with their favorite brands. For a perfect fit every time. Get happy. Give Happy.

* The gift to give when you want to give choices. Let them know just how well you know them with the gift card that pairs them with their favorite brands. Get happy. Give Happy.

* The perfect gift for nearly everyone. Take guessing out of your gifts, with the gift card that brings the most trusted brands to the people who love them. Get happy. Give Happy.

* Put a little extra Happy in your Holidays. Make gift-giving drama a thing of the past. Give the gift card that pairs your favorite people with their favorite brands. Get happy. Give Happy.

You can read all the Life After Loss series here andĀ Living with Cancer series here and BeingĀ the Best of Me here.

Photo credit: Grace Liang

Thank you for reading! If you like what you read, please comment below, or share it with your friends. Donā€™t forget to follow me on Facebook and Twitter for new updates. For all the amazing fashion/beauty and lifestyle products I share, also follow me on Instagram. Remember to check out my Instagram stories daily to know me better as a person. Finally, donā€™t forget to follow me on YouTube for my fashion/beauty and lifestyle videos. Have a great day and see you soon!

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Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

Physical fitness is easy to see from the mirror, or a scale. But emotional fitness is quite hard to see so it makes it difficult to manage. I thought I have done so much work on myself the past two years, and I am pretty good at understanding and managing my emotions. But the holiday brings so much mixed emotions and I was surprised by how emotional I was, again!

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

I hosted our annual family Thanksgiving dinner at my house. We had great food like usual and a great time hanging out with my step-kids, especially my two adorable grand daughters. After everybody left that night, I suddenly felt so lonely. I haven’t had this feeling for many months. Then my friend called me. During the conversation, somehow I was hoping this friend can save me from the horrible loneliness I was feeling at that moment. Since we are quite close, I thought this person should not just understand me, but also should take care of me by fulfilling my neediness. Obviously, this friend was quite confused and frustrated with not really knowing what to do.

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

It took me about two days finally understood myself and re-center my emotions. This event was a great opportunity for me to notice that maybe I have gotten my physical body back through almost two years of gym routines and healthy eating. I am at a pretty good physical fitness level. But my emotional fitness level is still low at certain areas. So how to improve my emotional fitness became my recent focus.

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

The first thing came to my head was, how to improve? I didn’t really know at first, then a few days ago when I was in my gym class. I figured it out. To improve my emotional fitness just like the physical fitness, I need to know where I am first and then set a goal with what I would like to achieve in 3 months, half year or one year. I have pretty clear self-awareness for the most part, but for certain areas, I have to just put more effort to figure it out so I can get the inner peace that I always wanted. Those emotional areas are like the stubborn tummy fat. It will take a lot of work to see the results.

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

Then the second question was, how to figure it out? Or what is the action to reach my emotional fitness goals? At this moment, what I have learned the most effective way for me, was to step out of my emotions for a while. It sounds weird, but I have learned that I must pause my feelings, then step out to watch it like a movie, or a play. You know we often become very clear when we listen to others story but so struggled when we are IN the story? So I observe it like others story and this way I can understand it better. I also tried a new approach after I have learned the golden rule of “Focus on what I want”. If you are not sure what I am talking about, you can read my previous post “BEING THE BEST OF ME || FOCUS ON WHAT I WANT” to get a better idea. Basically, if I focus on the problem, all my brain can see, my body can feel is this problem. Eventually, this problem became the major thing of my day and my life. For example, I lost my late husband. It was for sure a huge problem. I can focus on “Why this happened to me? What I have done wrong to get punished so badly? Why I am always having bad luck?” Obviously, this focus will result in me being angry, suffering more in pain and depressed. But if I shift my focus on other things, like my fashion dream, I started to feel the joy of life again and it helps me to rebuild my confidence and emotional strength. Temporally not thinking about the problem that I lost my late husband, helped me gained the power to revisit the problem again with a better level of emotional fitness. I was used to so focus on the problem because I want to find out why and how to solve it. It only made the problem bigger and I suffer even more.

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

It is just like the physical fitness, emotional fitness takes a lot of effort to work on daily by observing, reflecting, letting go for a while, learning more ways to handle it and eventually to gain a more powerful mindset that can turn everything into possibility and make the best out of everything happens in life. Practice, practice and practice, I am determined to lose my emotional stubborn belly fat! Lol! Where are you at with your emotional fitness?

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

You can read all the Life After Loss series here andĀ Living with Cancer series here and BeingĀ the Best of Me here.

Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

Photo credit: Grace Liang

Thank you for reading! If you like what you read, please comment below, or share it with your friends. Donā€™t forget to follow me on Facebook and Twitter for new updates. For all the amazing fashion/beauty and lifestyle products I share, also follow me on Instagram. Remember to check out my Instagram stories daily to know me better as a person. Finally, donā€™t forget to follow me on YouTube for my fashion/beauty and lifestyle videos. Have a great day and see you soon!

|TODAY’S LINKUP PARTY:|


Grace

colorandgrace.comĀ occasionally receives vendor/brand sponsorships for mentioning their products and services.

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