• Being the best of me,  Fashion

    Celebrating Step-Mom’s Mother’s Day with adidas

    This post is partnered with adidas, but all opinions are my own. There are a few questions I have been constantly asked for the last two years. “Are you married?” “Do you have kids?” The obvious answer is “No, I am not married and I don’t have kids”. But the real answer is not that obvious. “I am a widow and I have two step-kids. They are adults and I also have two granddaughters” “Really?!” Lol, I know, my answer is quite long and it often leads to even more questions. I guess my life is quite complicated. As their step-mom, I am the lucky one! All the love I…

  • Being the best of me,  Living in America

    Home is The Key ||The Key to Happiness

    This is a sponsored post, but all opinions are my own! Home used to be a bitter and sweet word that, often brought tears to me. When I was young, I hardly had a home. Before I was 11 years old, we had a one bedroom house you may call a shed with a straw roof, mud wall and dirt floor in China. There was no running water, barely working electricity and no toilet. Winter was very tough, I often woke up in the middle of the night freezing and hungry. Then we lost this home, moved to a new city. Over the next ten years, we had moved more…

  • Being The Best of Me || Overcoming the Pain of Childhood Abuse and Neglect
    Being the best of me,  Fashion

    Being The Best of Me || Overcoming the Pain of Childhood Abuse and Neglect

    Some pain just doesn’t heal over time. For me, the pain of my childhood abuse and neglect from my mom seems like a disease that no matter how hard I try to forget or to move on, it still comes back to haunt me over and over again. The physical abuse holds no power on me anymore, but the emotional abuse still lingers there and affect my behaviors in so many unnoticeable ways. I’m a forty-five-year-old woman that runs my own business, have my own family, but often feel hopeless to deal with this pain. It just doesn’t go away! The symptoms are constantly worrying about doing something wrong, low…

  • Being The Best of Me || The Real Self-Love
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    Being The Best of Me || The Real Self-Love

    What is real self-love? Self-love seems to be one of the hottest words at this moment. Some people think self-love is self-care. For example, a lazy doing nothing day, a bubble bath, a massage and a Netflix day. Some people think self-love is they do whatever to please themselves. For example, buying a designers handbag, booking an exotic vacation, or becoming a serial dater just to have fun. What is your definition of self-love? Self-love for me is not just those things we do to please ourselves on the surface. Self-love is an on-going process of soul searching and becoming my best self. Someone may ask, “What if you reach…

  • She Breaks Barrier || Celebrating International Women’s Day With adidas
    Being the best of me,  Fashion

    She Breaks Barrier || Celebrating International Women’s Day With adidas

    This post is partnered with adidas, but all opinions are my own. I am celebrating this International Women’s Day by acknowledging myself as an immigrant woman, a widow, and a boss lady who has broken many barriers in pursuing my dream life. No matter the obstacles and setbacks I continue to do what I love. Being born and raised in the small village of Northern China, it didn’t just mean I was born in poverty, it also meant I had to fight for just about everything. I had to fight for food, for shelter, for the chance to go to school, and for the chance to decide who I wanted…

  • Being the Best of Me || Re-enter the Dating World In My 40s
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    Being the Best of Me || Re-enter the Dating World In My 40s

    It has been more than two years that I lost my late husband who was also my best friend and my soul-mate. I often joke about myself as the master of survivals. I have survived from hunger and poverty, from family abuse and domestic abuse, from losing my father and losing my late husband. Now I came to a conclusion that there is no situations that I can’t get out off and turned it around to a happy ending. All the suffers that I had been through have turned me into this strong and happy women today who has the laser focus on my dreams and to be the best…

  • Being The Best of Me || What I Say to Myself Matters
    Being the best of me,  Fashion

    Being The Best of Me || What I Say to Myself Matters

    Our emotions are often triggered by what others say or do to us. But the hard truth is really what I say to myself matters. It is all about the stories that I tell myself to create the reality of my life. The second year after I moved to America from China, I started working as a Chinese tutor at our local public schools to help a few Chinese kids. Most of those students spoke almost no English. At that time, my English was quite limited as well. I felt very uncomfortable with speaking and writing during our weekly tutor meeting. I took notes by writing it in Chinese and…

  • Being the Best of Me || Develop New Habits to Create a Better Life
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    Being the Best of Me || Develop New Habits to Create a Better Life

    Being the Best of Me || Develop New Habits to Create a Better Life We are our habits. What is a habit? A habit is something you do daily without thinking much about it. It is the unique way that you think, you speak, you act in an autopilot way. Habits become such a part of our routine that they become who we are. Want to be a different or a better, happier person? Just start some new habits! On the other hand, a habit can be something that you can try and break. For example, someone who smokes about 10 times a day knows that this isn’t the best…

  • Being the Best of Me ||Creating A Vision Board To Manifest My Dream Life
    Being the best of me,  Fashion

    Being the Best of Me ||Creating A Vision Board To Manifest My Dream Life

    See it, feel it, and believe it! This is the power of a vision board. Jack Canfield has said that “Creating a vision board is probably one of the most valuable visualization tools available to you.” A vision board is a concrete representation of your desires for your dream life with images that you can see. They are so fun to create. Just think about that you were granted some superpower and you can get everything you dare to imagine. So just make your dreams as big and as wild as you can! Lol! I for sure had so much fun to make mine! A vision board also can serve…

  • Being The Best of Me || What Would You Direct The Movie About Your Life?
    Being the best of me,  Fashion

    Being The Best of Me || What Would You Direct The Movie About Your Life?

    During the holiday seasons, I like to watch movies to build up my holiday cheers. A few nights ago I watched The Christmas Chronicles and really loved it. I am not from a long line family of true believers, lol! But I really believe in miracle of life. I think Santa represents the miracle power that we all have in us that we just have to choose to believe in ourselves. So this movie got me thinking, what if I am the director of this movie called MY OWN LIFE? What type of movie am I going to make? Drama? Action? Adventure? Comedy? Crime? Family? Fantasy? Mystery? Romance? Lol! There…

  • Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness
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    Being The Best Of Me || Improve My Emotional Fitness

    Physical fitness is easy to see from the mirror, or a scale and if you want to work on this try beginner tennis lessons. But emotional fitness is quite hard to see so it makes it difficult to manage. I thought I have done so much work on myself the past two years, and I am pretty good at understanding and managing my emotions. But the holiday brings so much mixed emotions and I was surprised by how emotional I was, again! I hosted our annual family Thanksgiving dinner at my house. We had great food like usual and a great time hanging out with my step-kids, especially my two…

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