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Life After Loss My Speech for my Husband’s Memorial Party

Life After Loss My Speech for my Husband’s Memorial Party

Tomorrow will be the big party for my husband. I have asked a few family and friends to give short speeches during the party. Being his wife, I really should say something too, but I know myself very well. I have no way to carry out this speech without breaking down millions of times. So I am going to just give my speech here, on our blog.

Life after loss my speech at my husband's memorial party

Bob was a man nobody can replace, at least not in my heart. He was often mad the last few months of his life and asked me “Why can we only have 10 years together?” I didn’t know the answer. The only thing I know is Bob and I were perfect for each other and we had such a happy life together. Even during the darkest time in our life, we still managed to truly enjoy every minute of each other’s company, support and love.

Life after loss my speech at my husband's memorial party

For others, my man may be just an ordinary guy. But for me, he was the best husband and my best friend. He taught me so many things, like how to speak English, drive a car, drinking, vacationing and just simply enjoying the small things in our lives. Some of the small things he enjoyed very much in the summer was grabbing a big slurpy for a road trip, BBQing over charcoal in our backyard, holding a beer in his hand and telling his cool jokes with friends at our parties, or jumping in the pool like a cannon ball…He had the ability to make everybody laugh. He was such a fun guy to be around and certainly he lived his life the best way he could, with no regrets.

Life after loss my speech at my husband's memorial party

Marrying my man was the best decision I ever made in my life. I am grateful for every minute we had together. We used to tell each other how lucky we were to be each other’s husband and wife. We had 10 truly joyful years with the deepest love, happiest marriage, and most trusted partnership that anyone could imagine. He gave me the experience of being deeply understood, truly supported, and unconditionally loved. When I got upset, he stayed calm and helped me calm down. When I was worried, he reminded me how much I/we had accomplished so we can do it. When I wasn’t sure what to do, he figured it out.

Life after loss my speech at my husband's memorial party

The past 5 months has been a true testimony of how much he had left for us. People often told me I am very strong. But the truth is, I am carrying on all his love and that is why I am so brave. His love for life is already deeply rooted into our hearts. We may not have the quick wit he had, but we are all trying to pull a joke when we can. We may not always have the positive outlook he had, but we are trying to have more faith and believe everything will work out.

Life after loss my speech at my husband's memorial party

He certainly made a huge impact on not just his family, but also on many others too. I got an email from one of his co-workers and she shared with me the story of how Bob converted her into a charcoal girl. 😉 So today, let’s all use the best way Bob knew how to celebrate and have a toast for my man and celebrate his life!

Life after loss my speech at my husband's memorial party

Life after loss my speech at my husband's memorial party

Life after loss my speech at my husband's memorial party

You can read all Life After Loss series here and Living with Cancer series here.

Photos credited: Grace Liang/Ashley Alles

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Life After Loss 10 Year Wedding Anniversary Without Him

Life After Loss 10 Year Wedding Anniversary Without Him

Hello man,

How is your new life in heaven? Is everyday just like vacation? I can imagine you are either holding your beer joking around with your old and new friends, or napping on the beach. But I know, you would rather stay with me, with our family.

We used to send emails to each other all the time when we first met many years ago. Do you remember? I am still surprised that you could stand my horrible grammar and broken sentences. But you had always been so patient with me and never showed any frustration with my limited English those many years ago. Through those letters, we got to know each other and I felt I had already known you for my whole life since the very beginning. So, for our 10 year wedding anniversary on 6/18, I am going to write you a letter, just like before.

Life After Loss 10 Years Wedding Anniversary Without him

Right after you passed away, your sister, Penny, thanked me very much for making you the happiest man on Earth over the last 10 years. I told her those 10 years were the best time of my life as well. There were so many evenings we were having delicious dinners, wine and holding hands telling each other how lucky we both were to be husband and wife. Yes, we were quite cheesy. 😉

Man, thank you so much for surprising me with my Chinese friend showing up on our wedding day. You knew that none of my side of the family could make it to our wedding and you wanted to bring a little bit of China home to me. You tried so hard to invite our Chinese friends to our wedding in America. You were always so good at surprising me, like the big surprise party on my 40th birthday. I planned to give you one this year on your birthday as well but I didn’t get the chance.

Life After Loss 10 Years Wedding Anniversary Without him

I am doing ok. Most of days I am pretty good, but there are some other days I am a hot mess. Can you believe I cried at work a few days ago? I have never done that before in my whole life. I guess now I have a new record. 😉 I am trying very hard to keep our little house and big yard in order. We got a new roof and our pool got a new surface. Now we are all working on your life celebration party as you requested. I know there must be a lot of beer, wine and laughter, no tears. I will remember, sir.

Life After Loss 10 Years Wedding Anniversary Without him

Everyone says the first year of being a widow is the hardest, I am not even half a year there yet so I don’t really know. But I do know it sucks and I am very good at crying in public now. Do you remember how I used to having trouble crying? It certainly is not the case now. I am an expert at crying in recent months. 😉 There are many milestones in the first year of being alone and I have survived – Valentine’s Day, my birthday, the anniversary I came to America to marry you, and your birthday. Now our wedding anniversary is just around at the corner. I have no clue what I am going to do without you and how big of a mess I will be. But I will live, like usual. Wish me luck man!

Life After Loss 10 Years Wedding Anniversary Without him

I miss you sooooo much and love you forever!

Your trouble wife, Grace

Life After Loss 10 Years Wedding Anniversary Without him

You can read all Life After Loss series here and Living with Cancer series here.

Photos credited: Grace Liang

Thank you for reading, and if you like what you read, please comment below or share it with your friends. Don’t forget to follower me on FaceBook and Twitter for new post updates, and follow me on Instagram for all the amazing fashion, beauty and life style products that I will share with you, of course don’t forget to check out my Instagram story daily to know me better as a person. Finally don’t forget to follow me on YouTube for my fashion, beauty and life style videos. Have a great day and see you soon!

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