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    Gracefully Grieving: Changing Our Belief System

    When and how did you choose your belief system? Everyone has their own belief system that is based on many factors. But there is one thing these belief systems (how we see the world and ourselves) have in common: their ability to be changed either willingly or unwillingly. In my last post, I explained how the stories we tell ourselves about losing a loved one can be the source of suffering. Today, I will go even deeper into helping you figure out why we even choose these stories and our blueprint in the first place. I will use myself as an example. Below is the timeline of my own journey…

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    Gracefully Grieving: 5 Step Process to Bring You More Peace!

    While talking to a friend yesterday, she expressed the anger, fear, guilt, frustration and overwhelming feelings she was having about an unknown future life after the loss of her husband she had been married to for 30+ years. This is exactly what grief feels like. There are so many intense emotions and it’s almost impossible to find peace, right? With grief our old life is gone, the door has closed, and there is no way we can go back. We don’t like our new normal and we just want the old life that we had. Does this sound familiar? Feeling like this is where our suffering comes from. Today, I…

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    Changing Our Mindset in Order to Heal from Grief

    Have you ever wished you owned a time machine so you could go back and save your deceased loved one? I know I did many times! I begged, yelled and bargained to bring my husband back. It didn’t work of course! This took place a few months after I lost my late husband during one of my hour long crying spells on his ashes. I was so tired of being miserable and decided to change my reaction in order to intentionally save myself from my misery. Now, 3 years after I lost him, changing my reaction was the turning point of my life and I am able to live my…

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    Gracefully Grieving: Rebuilding A Life After Loss

    Grief can be a deadly storm that can wipe away our whole life! But grief can also be a great opportunity to rebuild a brand new life out of the ashes! Our decisions on how we rebuild either comes from love or fear. Which will you choose? Since the end of April, I have been attending zoom Yoga classes at least 4 times a week. During each class, we are always asked to dedicate the next 5 breath cycles to what we appreciate. God and my late husband Bob are always on my list. No matter where I look; the blue sky, the blooming flowers, the singing birds, or even…

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    Turning Grief into Growth: Celebrating My Wedding Anniversary

    Today marks my 4th wedding anniversary without my late husband Bob. We first met each other 16 years ago in Shanghai and 3 years later we got married.  Back on 6/18 of 2017, my step-daughter and I went to a Korean BBQ restaurant to celebrate this special day and we dedicated a toast to Bob. The next day, we hosted a life celebration party to honor my late husband. Instead of a funeral, my husband requested that we have a big party to celebrate his life. It was a success! Over a hundred people came and shared their stories about Bob. I was both laughing and crying when I listened to…

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