• Gracefully Grieving

    What life looks like for an empowered and healed woman!

    Just close your eyes and imagine your brand new life now. You wake up from a good night’s sleep, stretching your arms while opening your eyes. Instantly you smile and your heart is full of appreciation. You love your new, cozy home. Everything is just the way you always wanted; simple, yet it speaks volumes about who you are. You get up and get yourself a cup of your favorite coffee, getting dressed while listening to your favorite audiobook. Today is a very special day. It is the wedding anniversary of you and your late husband. You scan your whole body for any signs of pain or sorrow but you…

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    How to Heal Using Your Built-in Energy Healing System

    As a widow who has experienced grief firsthand, I have to tell you that you may be grieving the wrong way!! I know this statement may make some of you angry. Before you start to throw eggs, bricks or knives at me, just hear me out! We have all been taught that only time will heal us and that we have no power over our grief. Therefore, all we can do is to wait out our grief. This means that we have to suffer for a long time and that our grieving journey will never end. Does this sound familiar? Have you ever asked yourself if this is actually true?…

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    Gracefully Grieving: 5 Step Process to Bring You More Peace!

    While talking to a friend yesterday, she expressed the anger, fear, guilt, frustration and overwhelming feelings she was having about an unknown future life after the loss of her husband she had been married to for 30+ years. This is exactly what grief feels like. There are so many intense emotions and it’s almost impossible to find peace, right? With grief our old life is gone, the door has closed, and there is no way we can go back. We don’t like our new normal and we just want the old life that we had. Does this sound familiar? Feeling like this is where our suffering comes from. Today, I…

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    Changing Our Mindset in Order to Heal from Grief

    Have you ever wished you owned a time machine so you could go back and save your deceased loved one? I know I did many times! I begged, yelled and bargained to bring my husband back. It didn’t work of course! This took place a few months after I lost my late husband during one of my hour long crying spells on his ashes. I was so tired of being miserable and decided to change my reaction in order to intentionally save myself from my misery. Now, 3 years after I lost him, changing my reaction was the turning point of my life and I am able to live my…

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    Gracefully Grieving: Rebuilding A Life After Loss

    Grief can be a deadly storm that can wipe away our whole life! But grief can also be a great opportunity to rebuild a brand new life out of the ashes! Our decisions on how we rebuild either comes from love or fear. Which will you choose? Since the end of April, I have been attending zoom Yoga classes at least 4 times a week. During each class, we are always asked to dedicate the next 5 breath cycles to what we appreciate. God and my late husband Bob are always on my list. No matter where I look; the blue sky, the blooming flowers, the singing birds, or even…

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    International Widow’s Day: What It Mean To Be a Widow

    You may not know it but today is International Widow’s Day! I didn’t know about it until I became a widow myself three and a half years ago. There are many people who tell me that I don’t look like a widow because I am too happy, too powerful and too put together! So it got me thinking that it is time to redefine the term WIDOW. Or better yet, what should an awakened, empowered widow look like? A widow is a woman whose world was unwilling destroyed and shattered. Being sad, angry, confused and scared is normal for widows at the very beginning stages of grief. But at the…

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    Turning Grief into Growth: Celebrating My Wedding Anniversary

    Today marks my 4th wedding anniversary without my late husband Bob. We first met each other 16 years ago in Shanghai and 3 years later we got married.  Back on 6/18 of 2017, my step-daughter and I went to a Korean BBQ restaurant to celebrate this special day and we dedicated a toast to Bob. The next day, we hosted a life celebration party to honor my late husband. Instead of a funeral, my husband requested that we have a big party to celebrate his life. It was a success! Over a hundred people came and shared their stories about Bob. I was both laughing and crying when I listened to…

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