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    Gracefully Grieving: What Does It Mean To Be a Widow?

    People often ask me, “why did you choose to be a Grief Healing Coach?” I have to say that in a million years, I had never planned on being a Grief Healing Coach. But God has his own ways of directing people to where they need to be. My dream job since I was little was to either be a police officer, lawyer or journalist. I wanted to be someone who could help others who needed to be protected and give them a voice (you may see a pattern here). Growing up in poverty in China, all of these jobs were far out of my reach because if you didn’t…

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    Gracefully Grieving: Changing Our Belief System

    When and how did you choose your belief system? Everyone has their own belief system that is based on many factors. But there is one thing these belief systems (how we see the world and ourselves) have in common: their ability to be changed either willingly or unwillingly. In my last post, I explained how the stories we tell ourselves about losing a loved one can be the source of suffering. Today, I will go even deeper into helping you figure out why we even choose these stories and our blueprint in the first place. I will use myself as an example. Below is the timeline of my own journey…

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    The Stories We Tell Ourselves About Losing a Loved One.

    What happened? What are the FACTS that make up the story of what happened to your deceased love one? The facts are the part of the story that DOESN’T CHANGE. This doesn’t include your feelings or your response to the story, simply only the facts. Here are the facts in my story of loss. My father died from cancer. My late husband died from cancer. What are the plain facts that make up your story of loss? Now, feel free to tell your own version of the stories regarding your loss. Here is the story I used to tell myself after my dad died: Having an abusive mom, my dad…

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    The GOLDEN Formula to Take Back Control of Your Grief!

    This GOLDEN formula has totally transformed my life. It has helped me overcome poverty, family abuse, domestic violence, moving to a foreign country, and losing my husband to cancer. This formula helped me to live a joyful life again and it will change your life if you apply it too! Are you ready to suffer less and heal faster? Here you go! E+R=O E represents the EVENT, such as a loss of your job, divorce, loss of a loved one, etc.R represents the RESPONSE, not the reaction. The difference between a response and a reaction is that a reaction is what you instantly do right after something happens without thinking.…

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    What life looks like for an empowered and healed woman!

    Just close your eyes and imagine your brand new life now. You wake up from a good night’s sleep, stretching your arms while opening your eyes. Instantly you smile and your heart is full of appreciation. You love your new, cozy home. Everything is just the way you always wanted; simple, yet it speaks volumes about who you are. You get up and get yourself a cup of your favorite coffee, getting dressed while listening to your favorite audiobook. Today is a very special day. It is the wedding anniversary of you and your late husband. You scan your whole body for any signs of pain or sorrow but you…

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    Changing Our Mindset in Order to Heal from Grief

    Have you ever wished you owned a time machine so you could go back and save your deceased loved one? I know I did many times! I begged, yelled and bargained to bring my husband back. It didn’t work of course! This took place a few months after I lost my late husband during one of my hour long crying spells on his ashes. I was so tired of being miserable and decided to change my reaction in order to intentionally save myself from my misery. Now, 3 years after I lost him, changing my reaction was the turning point of my life and I am able to live my…

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    Gracefully Grieving: Rebuilding A Life After Loss

    Grief can be a deadly storm that can wipe away our whole life! But grief can also be a great opportunity to rebuild a brand new life out of the ashes! Our decisions on how we rebuild either comes from love or fear. Which will you choose? Since the end of April, I have been attending zoom Yoga classes at least 4 times a week. During each class, we are always asked to dedicate the next 5 breath cycles to what we appreciate. God and my late husband Bob are always on my list. No matter where I look; the blue sky, the blooming flowers, the singing birds, or even…

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    International Widow’s Day: What It Means To Be a Widow

    You may not know it but today is International Widow’s Day! I didn’t know about it until I became a widow myself three and a half years ago. There are many people who tell me that I don’t look like a widow because I am too happy, too powerful and too put together! So it got me thinking that it is time to redefine the term WIDOW. Or better yet, what should an awakened, empowered widow look like? A widow is a woman whose world was unwilling destroyed and shattered. Being sad, angry, confused and scared is normal for widows at the very beginning stages of grief. But at the…

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