• Gracefully Grieving

    How Do You Know When You Are Ready to Date Again After Loss?

    How do you know when you are ready to date again after loss? Since marrying my best friend back in November, there have been a lot of people who have asked me this question. Below are my answers. This advice also applies to anyone who have gone through a divorce as well. 1. I strongly suggest you hold off on dating until you clearly know who you are again. Whether you have been divorced or widowed, you are facing an identity crisis. Without rediscovering who you are after losing your old lifestyle, it will be very hard to know who will be a good fit for you in your new…

  • Gracefully Grieving

    Going Through Grief with Grace

    Every month, Paula and I host our monthly live session “Going Through Grief with Grace.” The purpose of these live sessions is to discuss grief related topics and the approach Paula and I take when discussing grief is quite different from what you have heard before. Since I recently got married to my best friend, there are a lot of people who have asked me how to navigate the dating and relationship world while going through the grieving process. So today Paula and I will discuss the topic of how to love after loss. One of the biggest mistakes women make during grieving is to enter into another relationship before…

  • Gracefully Grieving

    Finding Success by Doing the Small Things

    I was going through the notes on my phone and found the following from about a year ago. Celebrate the small wins: 1. Got a good night sleep without sleeping pills. 2. Did some meditation and affirmations to intentionally healing myself. 3. Talked to God and asked him for guidance and support. 4. Appreciated the flowers when I opened my bedroom windows. 5. Decide on always asking myself the question “What positive meaning can I find from this situation?” 6. Decide to enjoy what I am doing more intentionally. 7. I was excited for a solid work day without any meetings or disruptions. This exercise is designed to help anyone…

  • Gracefully Grieving

    If I Can Turn My Life Around, You Can Too! Here’s How! Part 1

    First, don’t forget to sign up to gain access to my FREE 6-part video series to heal yourself from your grief and/or past traumas: https://gracefullygrieving.com/general-opt-in Normally, I love to focus on counting my blessings. But today, I will share with you the HUGE messes that make up the not so pretty portions of my past. Since it’s a long list, today will be part 1 and I invite you to come back tomorrow to read part 2. The first mess I would like to discuss was growing up in poverty in China. Below is a list of some basic milestones to help paint a picture of what my early life…

  • Gracefully Grieving

    Gracefully Grieving: What Does It Mean To Be a Widow?

    People often ask me, “why did you choose to be a Grief Healing Coach?” I have to say that in a million years, I had never planned on being a Grief Healing Coach. But God has his own ways of directing people to where they need to be. My dream job since I was little was to either be a police officer, lawyer or journalist. I wanted to be someone who could help others who needed to be protected and give them a voice (you may see a pattern here). Growing up in poverty in China, all of these jobs were far out of my reach because if you didn’t…

  • Gracefully Grieving

    The GOLDEN Formula to Take Back Control of Your Grief!

    This GOLDEN formula has totally transformed my life. It has helped me overcome poverty, family abuse, domestic violence, moving to a foreign country, and losing my husband to cancer. This formula helped me to live a joyful life again and it will change your life if you apply it too! Are you ready to suffer less and heal faster? Here you go! E+R=O E represents the EVENT, such as a loss of your job, divorce, loss of a loved one, etc.R represents the RESPONSE, not the reaction. The difference between a response and a reaction is that a reaction is what you instantly do right after something happens without thinking.…

  • Gracefully Grieving

    How to Heal Using Your Built-in Energy Healing System

    As a widow who has experienced grief firsthand, I have to tell you that you may be grieving the wrong way!! I know this statement may make some of you angry. Before you start to throw eggs, bricks or knives at me, just hear me out! We have all been taught that only time will heal us and that we have no power over our grief. Therefore, all we can do is to wait out our grief. This means that we have to suffer for a long time and that our grieving journey will never end. Does this sound familiar? Have you ever asked yourself if this is actually true?…

  • Gracefully Grieving

    International Widow’s Day: What It Means To Be a Widow

    You may not know it but today is International Widow’s Day! I didn’t know about it until I became a widow myself three and a half years ago. There are many people who tell me that I don’t look like a widow because I am too happy, too powerful and too put together! So it got me thinking that it is time to redefine the term WIDOW. Or better yet, what should an awakened, empowered widow look like? A widow is a woman whose world was unwilling destroyed and shattered. Being sad, angry, confused and scared is normal for widows at the very beginning stages of grief. But at the…

Join Color and Grace!