As a widow who has experienced grief firsthand, I have to tell you that you may be grieving the wrong way!! I know this statement may make some of you angry. Before you start to throw eggs, bricks or knives at me, just hear me out! We have all been taught that only time will heal us and that we have no power over our grief. Therefore, all we can do is to wait out our grief. This means that we have to suffer for a long time and that our grieving journey will never end. Does this sound familiar? Have you ever asked yourself if this is actually true?…
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Gracefully Grieving: 5 Step Process to Bring You More Peace!
While talking to a friend yesterday, she expressed the anger, fear, guilt, frustration and overwhelming feelings she was having about an unknown future life after the loss of her husband she had been married to for 30+ years. This is exactly what grief feels like. There are so many intense emotions and it’s almost impossible to find peace, right? With grief our old life is gone, the door has closed, and there is no way we can go back. We don’t like our new normal and we just want the old life that we had. Does this sound familiar? Feeling like this is where our suffering comes from. Today, I…
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Changing Our Mindset in Order to Heal from Grief
Have you ever wished you owned a time machine so you could go back and save your deceased loved one? I know I did many times! I begged, yelled and bargained to bring my husband back. It didn’t work of course! This took place a few months after I lost my late husband during one of my hour long crying spells on his ashes. I was so tired of being miserable and decided to change my reaction in order to intentionally save myself from my misery. Now, 3 years after I lost him, changing my reaction was the turning point of my life and I am able to live my…
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Gracefully Grieving: Rebuilding A Life After Loss
Grief can be a deadly storm that can wipe away our whole life! But grief can also be a great opportunity to rebuild a brand new life out of the ashes! Our decisions on how we rebuild either comes from love or fear. Which will you choose? Since the end of April, I have been attending zoom Yoga classes at least 4 times a week. During each class, we are always asked to dedicate the next 5 breath cycles to what we appreciate. God and my late husband Bob are always on my list. No matter where I look; the blue sky, the blooming flowers, the singing birds, or even…
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International Widow’s Day: What It Mean To Be a Widow
You may not know it but today is International Widow’s Day! I didn’t know about it until I became a widow myself three and a half years ago. There are many people who tell me that I don’t look like a widow because I am too happy, too powerful and too put together! So it got me thinking that it is time to redefine the term WIDOW. Or better yet, what should an awakened, empowered widow look like? A widow is a woman whose world was unwilling destroyed and shattered. Being sad, angry, confused and scared is normal for widows at the very beginning stages of grief. But at the…
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Turning Grief into Growth: Celebrating My Wedding Anniversary
Today marks my 4th wedding anniversary without my late husband Bob. We first met each other 16 years ago in Shanghai and 3 years later we got married. Back on 6/18 of 2017, my step-daughter and I went to a Korean BBQ restaurant to celebrate this special day and we dedicated a toast to Bob. The next day, we hosted a life celebration party to honor my late husband. Instead of a funeral, my husband requested that we have a big party to celebrate his life. It was a success! Over a hundred people came and shared their stories about Bob. I was both laughing and crying when I listened to…
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How To Cope With COVID-19
This post is sponsored by adidas, but all the opinions are my own. At this point, the majority of us have been quarantined at home for about 2 months. How are you doing? Today, I want to share with you some mental health tips about quarantine at home. I will share with you six tips and one activity to help you get the best out of this time of your life! You can also watch this short video below for the simplest at home workout routines to help you stay safe and healthy! By the way, I just love this crop top, sports bra and leggings from adidas. Tip 1: Drop…
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The emotional blocks that lead you to hold onto clothes that you no longer wear
As a new year and new decade begins, many of us are excited for a fresh start. Part of this fresh start often includes updating our wardrobe with new clothes. If you are currently at home, make a quick trip to your closet. If you are unable to go to your closet, you can just close your eyes and visualize the inside of it. As you look around in your closet, what are the three words you would use to describe it? For me, I consider my closet to be organized, colorful and trendy. For others though, they may look at their closet as being cluttered, cramped and outdated. Everyone…
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Ultherapy Helps Me Look My Best
This post is sponsored by Ultherapy, but all opinions are my own. Looking good has always been something that has made me feel more confident and the reason why Color and Grace started out as a fashion blog. As we get older, fashion can only take us so far, and that’s where Ultherapy comes in. Ultherapy is the only FDA-cleared, non-invasive treatment that lifts and tightens the skin on the neck, chin and brow, and smooths lines and wrinkles on the upper chest. It is the only non-invasive treatment that goes deeper to stimulates the production of your own natural collagen non-surgically, without any downtime. About three months ago, I went…
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Everyone Needs a Break Sometimes
I have been so incredibly blessed with all of the amazing things I’ve been able to do since starting this blog five years ago. What began as a fashion and beauty blog transformed into a blog about living with the cancer of my late husband that then transformed again into a blog about being a grieving widow that continued to evolve into me learning to live life to the fullest. Now, I want to take everything I’ve learned over the years of living and learning and help others learn to do the same. This Monday I will be traveling to Palm Springs, California to participate in two weeks of training…
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Going Wild with Chico’s Animal Prints Fall 2019
This is a sponsored post by Chico’s, but all opinions are my own. Hey there, tiger… is it just me, or are things getting a little more wild up in here this fall? It’s been raining like crazy today, so I decided to take a little stroll around the mall. Oh. My. Goodness. Is this a mall or a zoo? Leopard print, snake skin, zebra print, giraffe print– animal prints galore! With so many bold prints, I understand that it can be a little scary to step away from the usual basics and dive into something a little bit more unusual, but never fear! With a little help from Chico’s,…
