Empowering yourself and helping others
Do you know what I feel the best about being on the cooler side of my 40s? It is the confidence to be who I am. I don’t fight with myself anymore. This is me, an uptight, serious Chinese lady with a weird accent when I speak English. But those attributes also made me a hard working person and maybe a bit more memorable one to stand out in the crowd. 😉
It took me my whole life to find who I am and now finally I am fully empowering myself. Below is the poem my dear husband wrote for me based on my life story. It’s all true and you can follow my journey of awakening.
I was born in China, child number two.
My brother was first, more popular too.
The culture has said that boys are the choice.
Girls like me don’t get a big voice.
Because girls are below and boys are above,
I really don’t feel I got my mom’s love.
When I was young, I was poorer than poor
Straw was our roof and dirt for our floor.
The kitchen was special, it held our one pot.
But we had little food more often than not.
Money was tight so we couldn’t buy rice.
My brother and I stole soybeans from mice.
My mom and my dad worked every day.
No time for weekends. No time for play.
Farming and factories, iron and steel.
That was the way we paid for our meal.
Never heard of vacation. Hard work’s all we knew.
That’s what I learned. I still think it’s true.
I played with my friends, but that was hard too.
We moved house so often, every neighbor was new.
Another new month, another new house.
Another new school. But same worn blouse.
Times were quite hard, when I was a kid.
I’ll never forget of the way that we lived.
We didn’t know birthdays or parties like here.
Our one celebration was Chinese New Year.
The only sure time I knew there’d be food.
Some small lucky money. And new clothing too.
The rest of the year was day after day.
Of too much to do for too little pay.
I hated the mud. I hated the dirt.
I hated the way that my feelings would hurt.
When I think of my childhood, I remember my fears.
And the terrible words that came to my ears.
“You’re ugly, you’re stupid, shut up you can’t sing.
Don’t waste time pretending you’ll be anything.”
So I knew sometime later, in several more years.
I’d leave this behind. This place of my tears.
It started with high school, I lived in a dorm.
And being away from home was my norm.
But the tears didn’t stop, I often was sad.
And to make matters worse I now lost my dad.
But I got through high school, university too.
I now was a teacher with a job to do.
But I still didn’t feel my life was my own.
I had to go further. I had to leave home.
I had a big dream, Shanghai was its name.
So I packed my one bag and got on a train.
I showed up alone, no place to stay.
No one to talk to and no way to pay.
It was far from easy but I first found a bed.
And then got a job to get myself fed.
I was determined to be a success.
At least not to fail, so no time to rest.
I wouldn’t go home until I could prove,
My decision was good, I’d been right to move.
The years came and went but finally I knew.
Now I could visit, and this time I flew.
I went back to Shanghai, and made some new friends.
You might be thinking the story now ends.
But over in China the sun also rises.
On days filled with hope and sometimes surprises.
I’d sort of accepted it might stay just me.
When I went out to eat with two friends, just us three.
We sat at a table and ordered some food.
Then three men sat beside us, I thought it was rude.
One thing quite different about the big city.
It’s the first place I heard I might just be pretty.
It seemed that one of these men thought so too.
But he was American so what could I do?
It started quite slowly. But before we knew.
I thought I’d stay one. But now we were two.
I’d never left China, for even a day.
Now home’s in America and that’s where I’ll stay.
So many things have changed in my life.
I learned how to drive, and learned how to wife.
I’m still learning English, more all the time.
Now I speak it in dreams so I think I’ll be fine.
I guess those hard times I went through when young.
Have made me the woman that I have become.
You can’t have your now without the before.
You won’t see what’s rich without knowing poor.
I’ve come so far from that place that I hate.
I still can’t believe life could be so great!
Every time when I wear this tee from MLE Empowering Apparel I get a little bit emotional. As you read above, I am from a small village in China. We were poor, hungry, and girls were not valued by society. But I always believed that I am NOT worthless and I can accomplish so much in my life. Now as a 40s+ woman, I am still chasing my fashion dream.
Are you empowering yourself and others to live the life that you were meant to have? To live life to its fullest, it’s about being proud of our true identity and proclaiming it to those around us. By purchasing this MLE Empowering tee, you are empowering small scale entrepreneurs in Africa to change their lives for the better. 10% of every shirt’s profit will go straight towards enabling a woman to get a micro loan to help grow her business.
Are you living the fullest life you can? If not, what are you waiting for? The only one that can stop you is looking at you in your mirror every morning!
Ok, let’s talk about my outfit. The booties I am wearing are from Toms. They are not just super comfy. And I mean I can wear them the whole day for walking or working kind of comfy. But also Toms does some really awesome things. They will help a person in the world who needs a pair of new shoes because of my purchase. The unique tie bow and the black sheer vest I am wearing are both from Michigan local fashion designer Cheryl Zemke. And you can see this green and pink dress from her too which I wore on my last week’s post Adult Summertime outdoor Play Trends.
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