Life After Loss – Learning to Live Alone

Before my husband passed away, I broke down many times because I highly doubted that I could live without him. He was my soul mate, my best friend and he was my everything, literally. He was my driver because driving makes me very nervous. He was my cook because with a full time job and almost full time blogging, I barely had time to eat. He was the bag carrier when I was shopping and he did the laundry, vacuumed the house, did the grocery shopping…He did just about everything so I could focus on my job and my dream.

Life after loss Learning to live alone

Yes, I was very lucky and I was so spoiled! But the result was I am almost handicapped when it comes to basic life skills. After my man passed away, I had to learn how to fill up my gas tank because he had always taken care of it. I learned how to order food and use a drive through. I even learned how to write a check. After two weeks of the recycling guys refusing to take mine, I learned how to properly break down boxes and separate the paper from the plastics.

Life after loss Learning to live alone

I know, it sounds ridiculous but it was the reality for me the last 3 months. I am a fast learner and now everything is under control. πŸ™‚ I cook myself a very health breakfast every morning. I pack healthy snacks for myself everyday. I drive everywhere by myself with my GPS. I pay bills on time and have never run out of gas. πŸ˜‰ I went to Hawaii by myself and now just booked a Paris trip. I learned how to deal with the pool repair people, the roof people, the lawn people, the plumber…I am pretty proud with the results of my bargaining skills. The roof people saw my shoe collection, so it made it pretty hard, but I won. πŸ˜‰

Life after loss Learning to live alone

I am very lucky that my step-daughter and her fiancΓ© visit me almost every weekend. They have done so much for me, everything from cooking delicious dinners, pulling the weeds in my stubborn backyard, taking my blog photos, proofreading my posts, driving me to some fashion events, to helping me understand financial or medical files. They even changed out my kitchen faucet (I discovered my step-daughter gets the same language as my husband when things don’t go right, it must run in the family πŸ˜‰ )…But I know, they have their own life and I need to learn more how to handle everything by myself.

Life after loss Learning to live alone

All the physical things are easy to learn and to adapt to. The hardest part is the absence of my husbands love and his companionship. It took me a long time to get used to eating alone. I still hate it, but I am doing it. My husband and I used to talk a lot about everything. It seemed we always had so much to talk and giggle about. But now I don’t have him to share with my day and my feelings with. So I talk to family and friends more often. Sometimes I talk to myself too… hey, sometimes I just need an experts advice (or so my husband used to say) πŸ˜‰ It is hard after a long working day walking in to an empty house (I am not ready for a pet yet. I know what you are thinking. My two granddogs visit every weekend though!) To fix this, the first thing I do when I’m home is turn on my music.

Life after loss Learning to live alone

Anyway, it is just the beginning for me learning to live alone. I know I still have a looooong way to go. One step at a time, that is all it takes. I started buying myself flowers. I also cooked more dinners for myself. I can’t wait to redecorate my house during my summer break to change things up a bit. I think I might buy some new stairs from somewhere like Pear Stairs since mine are getting a bit old!! I plan to host some dinner parties again this summer as well. This house used to be a fun house. I’m determined that this tradition will continue. πŸ™‚

Life after loss Learning to live alone

Photos credited: Ashley Buck.

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  1. Ada

    Aww what a sweet and thoughtful post. Healing after a major loss is a process that takes a long time but I happen to think one should take it one day at a time which is what you are doing. You are strong, brave, powerful and kind. You can do this, Grace!

    I am so glad you were part of my birthday celebration this year choosing this gorgeous tan+white shirtdress styled so gracefully. Love the dress, pumps and purse. You can check out my post where you are featured below.

    And don’t forget to join my Thursday Moda linkup this week and every week. Thanks Grace. Enjoy the weekend!!

  2. I’m full of admiration for you Grace. I’m clueless about a lot of practical things because I’ve never lived on my own. I know I would find that very hard. My husband had to show me how to put air in my car tyres last weekend…and I’ve been driving 25 years! We had my next door neighbour over for dinner today – she’s 95 and lost her husband after almost 71 years of marriage in October. She was saying how hard it is to do things on her own but she wants to get out and socialise more. My mother in law (who’s been widowed for 13 years) was telling her that it’s daunting at first but it will get easier. They are both inspirational women – and so are you. I wish you much happiness Grace.

    Emma xxx

  3. Grace, thank you for sharing your story. That is so good that you are traveling and learning to find ways to make life enjoyable on your own.
    Thanks for hosting.

  4. Ruth

    You are making this all work with such grace! You are a beautiful person and wow a trip to Paris?!? It sounds like you are getting to know more about yourself and growing as a person.

  5. So sorry to hear about your loss. I love how you blog with so much honesty and vulnerability. I can’t imagine your pain but I also admire your strength. Keep it up Grace, life will get better. You also reminded me not to take people around me granted. I am going to be more grateful for what I have and who I have because I read your post today. THANK YOU for that.

    Jessica || Cubicle Chic

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