Today marks my 4th wedding anniversary without my late husband Bob. We first met each other 16 years ago in Shanghai and 3 years later we got married.
Back on 6/18 of 2017, my step-daughter and I went to a Korean BBQ restaurant to celebrate this special day and we dedicated a toast to Bob. The next day, we hosted a life celebration party to honor my late husband. Instead of a funeral, my husband requested that we have a big party to celebrate his life. It was a success! Over a hundred people came and shared their stories about Bob. I was both laughing and crying when I listened to the stories about my funny guy! I was so sad but at the same time was very glad that I could fulfill his dying wish.
6/18 of 2018, I was doing quite well and was busy growing my influencer business by myself during most of that year. But special dates like this have always been so hard. That day, my best friend took me shopping and then to dinner. I was crying during the car ride and wished I could somehow take this day permanently off my calendar.
Last year on 6/18, this day still hurt a bit but life had changed a lot! I had been busy learning energy healing techniques, making mindset changes and focusing on my personal growth! I had turned losing Bob into a great opportunity for growth and I even started dating again.
This year, I have been staring at our wedding picture and internally scanning my body for pain over losing Bob. All I can find though is the love and joy he has brought to my heart! This is the first time I have been able look at our wedding picture for a great length of time without hurting. All I feel is the smile on my face without having to fake it or having to force myself to smile!
Time didn’t heal me. Constantly working through my grief has healed me! All the training, books, and mentors I have had the last few years has seriously helped me reach where I am in my grieving process.
What once was a tragedy is now a triumph!
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Grace
Just remember, pain is inevitable but suffering is optional!
15 Comments
Gail
You both look so wonderfully happy in your wedding photo. Bravo Grace in turning a tragedy into eventual triumph. You are such an inspiration. Great to see you back at #WowOnWednesday.
Grace Liang
Thank you Gail for the kind words and it’s good to be back 🙂
Carrie @ Curly Crafty Mom
Oh, I am sure this has to be hard no matter how much time has passed. I know he was very precious to you. I’m so glad you have been actively working through your grief. It is no joke, you really have to keep yourself above the water or it’ll swallow you!
Carrie
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Grace Liang
Carrie, you are absolutely right when it comes to actively working through grief. I am in a better place with my grief but it did take a lot of work to get there.
Maureen
It must have been a really hard journey Grace. I couldn’t imagine what it was like. I am so happy to hear that you are now able to look at your wedding day and not hurt anymore. Thank you for sharing your story and you are an inspiration!
Maureen | http://www.littlemisscasual.com
Grace Liang
You’re welcome and I appreciate your kind words Maureen! It’s been a difficult journey but I am glad that I can help others with their grief.
Paul
Still sorry for your dear loss. That is good that you can look at the wedding photo longer , beautiful bride
Grace Liang
Thank you Paul for your kind words.
Shelbee on the Edge
Grace, you have been a constant inspiration to me and so many others by sharing your story of grief and triumph. What a beautiful way to honor Bob, by living your best life! Keep shining bright, my friend! Thanks for stopping by and joining my link party, too.
Shelbee
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Grace Liang
Thank you Shelbee for saying that and it means a lot coming from you!
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Ruth
This is such a beautiful and happy picture. What a great memory and for sharing how you have been healing!
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Grace Liang
It really is :-). Thank you for the kind words and for commenting.
Lucy Bertoldi
Such a touching post- and what a beautiful triumph…there really is light at the end of the tunnel. Very happy for you. I would love if you’d drop by my blog and link up this amazing post.. Too beautiful not to share; come check out my Fabulous Friday Linkup Party at: https://lucybertoldi.com/2020/07/17/fabulous-fridays-linkup-dreaming-of-a-sunshiny-getaway/ Have a great weekend:)
Grace Liang
Thank you very much Lucy and will do :-). Have a great weekend as well!