• Fashion,  Product Reviews

    Living with cancer #1 Be a Woman Warrior with Stella Valle

    Living with cancer #1 Be a woman Warrior with Stella Valle This is a Facebook post I published a few days ago. I feel it is time to let my blog world friends know about this as well. “A few nights ago, while my husband and I were laying in bed and just before we said good night, my husband suddenly said:” I wish I can be normal again someday.” I instantly cried. Tears were in my ears and my hair and I just could not help. “I am so sorry!” is all I can say. “You didn’t do anything wrong.” My man answered. “But I wish I could do…

  • Celebrating 12 Years of Living in America
    Living in America

    Celebrating 12 Years of Living in America

    Today is a special day for me. 12 years ago, after 30 plus hours traveling from China, I landed in Detroit, Michigan. From that moment, my life has totally changed, from barely speaking English to becoming an author and a public speaker, from single, to wife, to step-mother, to grandma, widow, and single again. From jobless to full-time teacher later quitting to become a full-time influencer with only hopes from of making $500 per month to making that even better reality. I started out as letting life just happen, then I found a purpose, and then my life started working for me. When I look back, my life seems like…

  • First The Pain, Then The Raising ||Living Life on Rapid
    Beauty,  Fashion

    First The Pain, Then The Raising ||Living Life on Rapid

    I have partnered with Neutrogena for this post! I am a woman who wears many hats, I am a girl boss, blogger, stylist, globetrotter, widow, step-mother, grandmother, immigrant, dream chaser, self-empower advocator and motivational speaker. I am living in my dream life now. If you have been following me for a while, you will know this journey hasn’t been easy for me. For those who aren’t familiar, I would like to take the time to tell you more about my journey and how I ended up embracing the living life on rapid lifestyle… Sixteen month ago, when my late husband passed away, I was broken and felt my whole world…

  • Susan G Komen 3-Day Walk Fundraiser Party Recap
    Being the best of me

    Susan G Komen 3-Day Walk Fundraiser Party Recap

    This past Sunday, my 3-Day Walk partner Alison Hill and I held our Susan G Komen Breast Cancer Fundraiser Party at our beloved Area45 Fitness in Troy, Michigan. It was a long day and a lot of work leading to the party, but it was a success and Alison reached her goal of $2300. Now we can walk together as a team of Color and Grace this August 2nd to 4th! It has been more than 4 months after I personally signed up to walk 60 miles in 3 days to raise money for breast cancer research. First I recruited Alison as my team member. Then I reached my personal…

  • Get What You Want || Women's Empowerment Starts On A Personal Level
    Being the best of me,  Fashion

    Get What You Want || Women’s Empowerment Starts On A Personal Level

    What is your definition of women’s empowerment?  For me, it is about women being free to be our independent selves. Being treated equally by others in all aspects of life without a gender label. As a woman, I understand I must acquire empowerment myself rather than having it given to me by others. But are we focusing on empowering only certain areas of a woman’s life (like our careers or family life)? Are we limiting ourselves? What about our empowerment in the bedroom and intimate relationships? Women have been socialized to put their needs second to their partner’s needs, both inside and outside of the bedroom. For me, women’s empowerment…

  • Empowering Women with Natori || I am Good Enough
    Being the best of me,  Fashion,  Fitness/healthy life style

    Empowering Women with Natori || I am Good Enough

    This post is partnered with Natori. But all opinions are my own. I used to hate my body and dislike myself for a long time. The memory of my mom yelling at me saying how ugly I am and showing me her discussed face seemed to haunt me for a long time. Then I turned 13 years old, my period came and my boobs started to grow. I got yelled at for being a dirty women now. My mom was super ashamed of my body because my boobs were bigger than the average Chinese girls. She made me hunch over so I can make my boobs appear smaller. She yelled…

  • Being the best of me,  Fashion

    Being the Best of Me || The Healing Journey from an Abusive Childhood

    Two weeks ago during a meditation program called Tree of Life in Train the Trainer with Jack Canfield, I finally broke through and felt the major healing from my abusive childhood. My parents had an arranged marriage. They hated each other but still chose to stick together after daily fights. We were super poor with a dirt floor, straw roof and there wasn’t running water, indoor toilet or electricity. Above suffering from poverty, I had been claimeed as worthless by my mom. According to her, no one will love me since I am so ugly and have a very bad personality. According to her, I am lazy, bad behaved and…

  • Being the best of me,  Fashion

    The Susan G. Komen 3-Day® Walk in Michigan Has Been Fully Funded

    I am thrilled to share with you this amazing news! My fundraiser for The Susan G. Komen 3-Day® walk in Michigan this August to fight again breast cancer has been fully funded!!! What a journey! It all started 10 years ago. I was invited to a local Susan G. Komen meeting. The speaker there was super amazing and I remember crying and smiling while she was telling us the story. But I didn’t join the fundraiser group because my husband just lost his job. Fast forward to about 4 years ago. My late husband was diagnosed with skin cancer. When you have lived with cancer, most people become more aware…

  • Being the best of me,  Fashion

    Celebrating Step-Mom’s Mother’s Day with adidas

    This post is partnered with adidas, but all opinions are my own. There are a few questions I have been constantly asked for the last two years. “Are you married?” “Do you have kids?” The obvious answer is “No, I am not married and I don’t have kids”. But the real answer is not that obvious. “I am a widow and I have two step-kids. They are adults and I also have two granddaughters” “Really?!” Lol, I know, my answer is quite long and it often leads to even more questions. I guess my life is quite complicated. As their step-mom, I am the lucky one! All the love I…

  • Being The Best of Me || Overcoming the Pain of Childhood Abuse and Neglect
    Being the best of me,  Fashion

    Being The Best of Me || Overcoming the Pain of Childhood Abuse and Neglect

    Some pain just doesn’t heal over time. For me, the pain of my childhood abuse and neglect from my mom seems like a disease that no matter how hard I try to forget or to move on, it still comes back to haunt me over and over again. The physical abuse holds no power on me anymore, but the emotional abuse still lingers there and affect my behaviors in so many unnoticeable ways. I’m a forty-five-year-old woman that runs my own business, have my own family, but often feel hopeless to deal with this pain. It just doesn’t go away! The symptoms are constantly worrying about doing something wrong, low…

  • Being The Best of Me || The Real Self-Love
    Being the best of me,  Fashion

    Being The Best of Me || The Real Self-Love

    What is real self-love? Self-love seems to be one of the hottest words at this moment. Some people think self-love is self-care. For example, a lazy doing nothing day, a bubble bath, a massage and a Netflix day. Some people think self-love is they do whatever to please themselves. For example, buying a designers handbag, booking an exotic vacation, or becoming a serial dater just to have fun. What is your definition of self-love? Self-love for me is not just those things we do to please ourselves on the surface. Self-love is an on-going process of soul searching and becoming my best self. Someone may ask, “What if you reach…

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