Being the Best of Me || Seeing the Brutal Truth of Myself

I have struggled my entire life to believe that I am enough. To believe I am good enough, smart enough, brave enough or beautiful enough. Childhood damage is far stronger than I could imagine. I thought this past year I had made huge progress on self-empowerment and making peace with the past. I didn’t know that there are still so many emotions of mine.

Being The Best Of Me || Seeing The Ugly Truth of Myself

If you have followed me for a while, you already know that I am trying to become a public speaker. So I can share my stories with more people, and encourage others to give their dream a chance. I have worked on my presentation for a while. The whole idea was to go back to where I was and take my audience to where I am now. Since day one, I started going back to those memories. I felt angry, shame, helpless and confused. It made me realize that those emotions are still there. Only my surface emotions got cleaned up.

Being The Best Of Me || Seeing The Ugly Truth of Myself

I presented a PowerPoint to my mentor and another friend a few days ago. While telling my stories, I was uncomfortable. Somehow, I felt shame. I felt horrible thoughts of not being good enough so my mom did not want me. And that is the same reason my ex-boyfriend abused me. Of course, I know that was not the truth, but I had a hard time removing those thoughts from my head at that moment. When my mentor and my friend gave me feedback, I couldn’t help but feel offended. I was a paid public speaker while in China and quite proud of what I had achieved. But there I felt not good enough, again.

Being The Best Of Me || Seeing The Ugly Truth of Myself

I tried controlling my emotions. No matter how much I tried, my intense body language and facial expressions still sold me away. I was quite shocked at myself, too. After all the hardships that I had been through, what could make me feel self-doubt again? But, as it turned out, I still can’t take any criticism. Now I understand why I always work so hard and often become an overachiever. It was because I thought, this way, people will give me less criticism. Now I can see how underneath this overachiever is a person still hurting from childhood damages… a person struggling with their identity and self-worth.

Being The Best Of Me || Seeing The Ugly Truth of Myself

It was good to see the brutal facts about myself. Those few hours of presenting, I struggled with my emotions. Trying to hold it together, and get the task at hand done. It was not pretty at all, feeling torn apart by all the criticism. But, I was actually getting torn apart by my insecurity. My mentor and my friend were very nice to me, but all I could feel at that moment was the shame… a feeling of not being good enough. Now, I am feeling bad about making such a scene while they were trying to help me out.

Being The Best Of Me || Seeing The Ugly Truth of Myself

At this moment, I am glad that I saw this brutal truth about myself. Also, understanding that I have a long way to go to reach full recovery from my childhood damage. Without fixing it, or accepting it, my confidence will be only on the surface level.

Being The Best Of Me || Seeing The Ugly Truth of Myself

You can read all the Life After Loss series here and Living with Cancer series here and Being the Best of Me here.

Photo credit: Grace Liang/@anstam

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How Petite Women Wear Wide-Leg Pants

It’s kind of funny when my followers meet me in real life and tell me they can’t believe I’m so short. LOL! Good news is, they all say other than that I look the same. 😉

How Petite Women Wear Wide Leg Pants

For being a petite more than 40-plus years, I guess I do have a few tricks to make myself appear taller. We don’t call that cheating, right? LOL.

How Petite Women Wear Wide Leg Pants

I’ve always been a risk taker and especially love to try trends. Of course, every so often it turns into a disaster. However, most of the time it pays off… like this wide-leg pants trend. That’s because it can come off quite challenging for those with petite frames.

How Petite Women Wear Wide Leg Pants

I’ve been looking for the perfect stripped and wide-leg pants, with a matching top, for the summer. I was happy when I discovered them on Tobi.com. You can see the pants here and the top here. I can’t believe both of them together are less than $60.

How Petite Women Wear Wide Leg Pants

Okay, let’s talk about why these wild leg pants work. (And I’m not even kidding, there will be no one guessing that I’m only 5 feet tall!)

1. High-Waisted

If you’re a petite woman, please remember to stick with the high-waisted look. For pants, shorts, skirts, etc. You’ll look so much taller than you actually are.

How Petite Women Wear Wide Leg Pants

2. Vertical Stripes

Striped prints are timeless. They’re always on-trend. But, on a petite person, vertical prints are more flattering than horizontal ones. Pay attention to the size of the stripes, too. Bigger is better than smaller, but too big won’t work either. Based on my experience, the stripe size of around one inch is the most fitting for pants.

How Petite Women Wear Wide Leg Pants

3. Pairing a Fitted Top with Wide-Leg Pants

If you’re a supermodel, you seem like you’re able to rock anything. But, for us petite people, there’s a beneficial and basic rule to follow. Which is, pairing a fitted top with wide-leg pants makes a smoother and elongated illusion. The top matching the pants is a bonus, too. (Side note: whether you’re a supermodel or not, rock whatever look you want to wear!)

4. Show Some Skin

Since your lower half is completely covered, to balance the look, show a little skin on top. If you’re covered from head to toe, it may look bulky.

How Petite Women Wear Wide Leg Pants

Okay, I hope these tricks will help you pick out the right wide-leg pants for this summer! If you have rocked this look before, what are your personal favorite tricks? Share with us below, and I would love to read them all! 🙂

How Petite Women Wear Wide Leg Pants

You can read all fashion tips for petite 40s+ here.

How Petite Women Wear Wide Leg Pants

Photo credit: Grace Liang/@anstam

Thank you for reading! If you like what you read, please comment below, or share it with your friends. For new post updates, don’t forget to follow me on Facebook and Twitter. For all the amazing fashion/beauty and lifestyle products I share, follow me on Instagram. Of course, remember to check out my daily Instagram stories to know me better as a person. Finally, make sure to follow me on YouTube for my fashion, beauty and lifestyle videos. Have a great day and see you soon!

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Grace

colorandgrace.com occasionally receives vendors/brand sponsorship for mentioning their products and services.

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