In many relationships, the 3 month mark is the first important milestone for most people to celebrate! Think about it this way, two people have gone through an entire season of the year and are still together! That is amazing for a lot of couples! Today is the 3 month anniversary of my first post on ColorAndGrace.com. What is really amazing to me is that I am not only still blogging but even going stronger! Today is an important date for my husband and me to remember, and celebrate! Over the past 90 days we’ve had tears and laughter and more than a few long sleepless nights! I guess many of you can relate. This blog has become more than just a website to me. I’m actually surprised how much I like spending time working on it. Now I look forward to the weekend not just to get a break from my day job but also to be able to work on my blog more!
Like most things that you’re really passionate about, the days are long but the weeks seem to fly by. Those incredible days are not just my memory. I really hope they are a part of your memory as well. And they will be if you started to follow me from my early days. Did you smile or laugh when you read some of my story about my new life in America? Were you surprised to see a different point of view due to the culture difference? Have you been inspired by at least one of my daily fashion posts and excited to try something new and maybe take a risk? I hope the answers are yes, yes, yes and yes!
Physically, I am very tired but I am very pumped up at the same time! I am one of those crazy bloggers that posts every day! I missed a day or two during those first couple weeks but not since! For the first 2 months, every morning when I drove to work, I was imagining my bright future in the fashion industry. It’s been my real dream for many years. Of course this was taking the fun out of it and putting pressure on myself. But since last month, I started to not let the numbers drive me crazy. It is so cool to meet people through my blog. Becoming collaboration partners or friends with people who have the same interests and experiences has been incredible. I love to read all the comments and a lot of time those comments make my day! I can really say that I am enjoying it more than I ever thought I would and it’s thanks to you great followers and fellow bloggers. Thank you everybody for your wonderful support!
Now when I look back, I really noticed my style is evolving too. Below are some of my favorites from month number 3. Tell me which one is yours?
Well for my regular readers, you know that I grew up in China and have only been in America for almost 8 years. Our culture is so different from here that it’s hard to imagine. Something as natural for Americans as riding in a car when you were a child, is an experience that is rare for anyone over 20 in China. So I had never learned to drive. And I wasn’t unusual. None of my friends could drive either. Why should we? No one had a car and there were bicycles and buses and trains and of course, good old walking to get us where we needed to go. But when I moved to America, this was about to change completely! My husband works in the automotive industry as an engineer. That’s why he was in China when we met; and also why we live in the Detroit area. Long ago I had moved away from bad winters and cold to live in Shanghai. It must be true love, because when I moved here to marry my fiancé, I also moved right back to snow and ice for a good part of the year! So anyway here I am, in the motor city. It’s the home to GM, Ford and Chrysler, and probably the worst area in America for public transportation. After all, the whole economy is based on you buying a car! And to make matters worse, I was living in a very small town that didn’t even have a bus system! So it was pretty clear that I was going to have to learn to drive!
My husband and I will celebrate our 8th anniversary this summer. This is a miracle. Not because we don’t love each other, but because he decided he would teach me to drive! Having gone through this experience and survived, I can tell you that it is pretty dangerous to your relationship for you to learn to drive from the same person you live with! I am what I consider to be a pretty typical Asian woman. I know fashion, I know food, I know who the boss is around the home, but I am not real familiar or comfortable with machines. And this is especially true for those machines that take you fast enough that you can get in trouble pretty quickly. Now one of the nice things about living away from the big city is that there were a lot of quiet places to practice driving. As soon as we got out of our small town we were in the countryside. There are lots of farms, fields and dirt roads with not much traffic to use. But there were some bad things about living so far from where most of the jobs were. My husband drove about 100 miles a day to work and back and wanted a car that got the best mileage. And for him that meant that he had a manual transmission.
So let’s review. I had never sat in the driver’s seat of any car, anywhere. I had just moved to a country where I was still having trouble reading the street signs. I didn’t have a real good relationship with machines. My dear husband decided he would become my teacher for learning how to drive. And the only car we had was one of the few cars in America that didn’t have an automatic shifter! O.M.G! Even now I know a LOT of people who can’t drive a car if they have to shift the gears and here I was learning how to drive for the first time AND shifting too! My husband seemed pretty confident though. He had grown up in America and in cars. He had also been driving cars with shifters all his adult life. AND he assured me he had taught lots of other people how to drive these kinds of cars. So in his mind he thought, “What could go wrong?” To find out the answer please come back to my blog!